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Meltdown due to noisy neighbours

NAS83740
over 1 year ago

Hello, new member here. I've only recently been diagnosed with autism so I'm doing a lot of learning. Piecing together things that I thought was just me being crazy and unlovable a lot of the time was actually undiagnosed autism. It hasn't felt good though and has strangely left me feeling more isolated and stressed.

My housemate is away and last night my downstairs neighbours were playing music so loudly I could basically feel it through the floor. I tried knocking/ringing on their door but they didn't open it, and eventually I got so stressed by it I couldn't eat and completely broke down. I think loneliness and things being really busy at work haven't helped, but is getting this upset over noisy neighbours normal for people with autism or am I just extra sensitive?

Any shared stories or info would be appreciated. Thanks 

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  • over 1 year ago

    Hi, and welcome.

    NAS83740 said:
    is getting this upset over noisy neighbours normal for people with autism or am I just extra sensitive?

    Sensitivies are normal for people with autism, and this particular one is certainly my normal.

    Noise sensitivity is a big thing with me but also, I think it's really wrong of people to make so much noise that it disturbs your peace in your home.

    NAS83740 said:
    my downstairs neighbours were playing music so loudly I could basically feel it through the floor.

    I don't think people should behave like this, but sadly they do.

    I've tried lots of different approaches to the problem of noise (over the years and in various homes) especially the music of others including talking to them about it, wearing earplugs, leaving the house (sometimes at midnight to sleep somewhere else), crying and mostly, getting very angry.

    My husband had to restrain me a few years ago because a neighbour was being deliberately provocative with his music.

    It makes me go a bit mad.

    So, in conclusion, I'm really sorry you have to suffer this.

    I hope that in time you may either get new neighbours or be able to live somewhere more peaceful.

    When I purchased my 1st flat, having as few neighbours as possible was a big priority.

    I managed to find a new block of only two flats and I actually rang the doorbell and had a conversation with the upstairs neighbour about noise before buying.

    All the best.

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  • over 1 year ago

    Hi, and welcome.

    NAS83740 said:
    is getting this upset over noisy neighbours normal for people with autism or am I just extra sensitive?

    Sensitivies are normal for people with autism, and this particular one is certainly my normal.

    Noise sensitivity is a big thing with me but also, I think it's really wrong of people to make so much noise that it disturbs your peace in your home.

    NAS83740 said:
    my downstairs neighbours were playing music so loudly I could basically feel it through the floor.

    I don't think people should behave like this, but sadly they do.

    I've tried lots of different approaches to the problem of noise (over the years and in various homes) especially the music of others including talking to them about it, wearing earplugs, leaving the house (sometimes at midnight to sleep somewhere else), crying and mostly, getting very angry.

    My husband had to restrain me a few years ago because a neighbour was being deliberately provocative with his music.

    It makes me go a bit mad.

    So, in conclusion, I'm really sorry you have to suffer this.

    I hope that in time you may either get new neighbours or be able to live somewhere more peaceful.

    When I purchased my 1st flat, having as few neighbours as possible was a big priority.

    I managed to find a new block of only two flats and I actually rang the doorbell and had a conversation with the upstairs neighbour about noise before buying.

    All the best.

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