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A revelation about getting on with people

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over 2 years ago

I've realised that people prefer it if I start with pleasantries, not just going straight to the point of what I want to say.

e.g. just now I went to get my recycling bin after it had been emptied. At least I thought it was my bin. I saw my neighbour getting into his car so I called 'is this my bin?' He looked blankly at me and said, 'hello, how are you? Haven't seen you for a while.' I was confused, I needed to know if that bin was mine or his. He was confused because he hadn't seen me for a while and wanted to say hello, not talk about bins.

Then it dawned on me, ta dahhhhhhhhhh! I should have said 'hello how are you?' Before launching into the questions about the bin.

I like to get straight to the point, never mind chit chat. Most humans prefer the chit chat first. Bulb 

I hope this has been helpful Sweat smile 

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  • over 2 years ago in reply to out_of_step

    Same here. I never want pleasantries. I want to get straight to the point, get on with business etc.

    But if I want to have a harmonious conversation and not get the usual blank stares, mockery and incomprehension, I'm going to have to start with pleasantries. Annoying but I'm so, so tired of being confused by conversations.