Shopping "difficulties" (not a big shop)

How does everyone find going shopping? 

I find it difficult organising myself and remembering what to buy outside general food. i make a list of meals and usually do 2 shops a week. But it's the other stuff I have problems with like toiletries or cleaning because they all run out at different times. And you cant always get what you need from the same shop.

Then there's remembering greetings cards. Online card shops have helped although you pay a premium it's easier to choose and they send you reminders. I'm often late with birthday cards.

I've delegated buying lightbulb to my partner for the rest of our lives.

Then there's other non-necessary stuff. I'm known for umming and ahhhing, carrying something around the shop with me then putting it down at the last minute and not buying it. Or I go especially to buy something but it's not in stock then I give up. Then I think "well I'll try online" then there's too many different websites, measurements,  prices etc.

Then I struggle when there's too much choice. I need new boot laces and tried a well known shoe repair who don't stock them. They said try the original shop. I did in store and online. No luck.  The store said contact customer services. I did. They don't make them anymore. Why sell expensive boots if they don't sell matching replacement laces? That frustrated me. So I went online and spent ages looking at other online shops but because I can't see the laces in person I don't know which colour to choose.

The shop I buy make up from suddenly stopped selling the only face powder I've ever worn. Now I have to find a new one. Have you seen how much choice there is?! I crumbled all my old bits together and congealed it with some surgical spirit so I've got a "new" powder press but it won't last forever. When there's too much choice I give up. Or there's different offers depending on which shop you go to but then you can't always guarantee they have everything in stock.

Or if something is not specific enough to what I'm looking for, I don't think "oh this will do instead, save yourself time and just buy this one". Or I look at something jn detail and think "actually it's not very good quality"when most stuff isnt these days as it's all cheap imports. Or I won't buy something if it's not exactly like the old one. Or I think "shop around a bit more" then I end up having to get the first one as there was no other choice for all reasons listed above.

Then I wanted to take something back last week but I didn't have a receipt and they wouldn't even give me a credit note.  I was ready for walking out of the shop and going home (not because i didnt get my own way but the principle of the matter with thr store policy frusytrated me and possibly because I was expecting a credit note as you can do in a lot of other stores) but it was a day out with a family member and I didn't want to spoil it. I couldn't concentrate for about an hour afterwards.

Has anyone got any tips? I take a list but it's remembering to put on it. Then when I get home usually that night we run out of something which I should've seen coming. Or my partner says "did you buy such a thing?" Well if he didn't tell me when I asked, then no. I do these shops in dribs and drabs. Maybe I need a routine of doing it on a certain day once a week or fortnight.

I'm going shopping in a bit.  I wish myself luck.

Parents
  • I have an obsession about loose change. I want to use them up, to have an exact pound amount in my wallet, or plan to have loose change if I plan getting a bus to Belfast; though I haven't visited there since last December.

  • I like having loose change just in case. I love it when, say something is 99p and I have exactly 99p in change in my purse but it only just scrapes together into the right amount. You don't get that satisfaction ftom using plastic.

  • I get satisfaction from both, having the exact right amount of cash and using plastic.  What I hate is accepting change in a shop.  I think this is fear of being cheated with short change in a shop.

    In the past I was short changed in several shops, and this makes me very bitter angry and upset.

  • With my experiences, I like using large supermarkets, plastic and self service tills.  

    I can do without the personal, friendly shopping experience in small independent shops.

  • What!! Oh god that's infuriating! You did right voting with your feet! Deffo get your bacon from elsewhere!

    Thing is, I bet other people would kick up a fuss. I wouldve done the same as you though. I bet they try it on to see who they can get away with it with. I bet if it happened to her she would kick up a fuss.

  • My anger is directed at shop people who short change me intentionally.

    Such as giving me  change out of a tenner when I gave them a twenty.

    Then there was one woman at the bacon counter of an independent shop in Leeds markets who short changed me once and then tried it again the next week 

    In the first incident she gave me the change in a closed fist, immediately looking at the next person to serve.  I counted the money thirty seconds after I left, I was £2 short,  it was too late to go back and argue.

    The following week I gave her £2.50 when the till said £2.34.  she DEMANDED more money,   I never shopped there again.

  • Always check your change! And always check your receipt. I'm often charged wrongly at the big supermarkets as they're always changing the offers, but the smaller ones like Aldi are ok cos the prices stay the same.

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  • With my experiences, I like using large supermarkets, plastic and self service tills.  

    I can do without the personal, friendly shopping experience in small independent shops.

  • What!! Oh god that's infuriating! You did right voting with your feet! Deffo get your bacon from elsewhere!

    Thing is, I bet other people would kick up a fuss. I wouldve done the same as you though. I bet they try it on to see who they can get away with it with. I bet if it happened to her she would kick up a fuss.

  • My anger is directed at shop people who short change me intentionally.

    Such as giving me  change out of a tenner when I gave them a twenty.

    Then there was one woman at the bacon counter of an independent shop in Leeds markets who short changed me once and then tried it again the next week 

    In the first incident she gave me the change in a closed fist, immediately looking at the next person to serve.  I counted the money thirty seconds after I left, I was £2 short,  it was too late to go back and argue.

    The following week I gave her £2.50 when the till said £2.34.  she DEMANDED more money,   I never shopped there again.