Published on 12, July, 2020
Ok decided to put this under miscellaneous and chat as there are more serious things than what I have to say here.
Now I am able to accept I can’t do a lot of things, for instance I cannot keep more than three numbers in my head at once, that’s ok I just don’t get involved and if I do I have a pen and paper and a calculator handy.
What upsets me is people who without thinking cause me so much hurt.
If for instance if I ask a question that I am unable to find an answer too, why oh why must they say “ oh really! That’s so simple everyone can do that!”
And so straight away I feel inadequate, stupid, wishing I hadn’t said a word.
This stems back to early school days, I soon realised that asking more than once how to do something was an excuse for the teacher or child to raise their voice, then talk to me as if I were stupid, often laughing that I couldn’t understand such a very simple thing.
This happens all to often in social interaction. I never quite know what to say or how to respond to things people say.
If it’s work related or something specific like science or mechanics then fine I can go in and in forever,
This all stems from earlier today, I was researching something I had read in here, I thought it would be useful to post it up for everyone to see.
It might give others an insight as to how the therapy and those who carry it out manage it.
No matter what I tried I just couldn’t get it to appear on my reply. I tried searching YouTube for an answer, yes loads of how to but none specific for this format?
After a very long time I gave up, I cried a little as it seemed such a simple thing and yet I couldn’t find the answer.
I only found out how to put links up to YouTube videos after asking my daughter, I had no idea how to copy and paste until I eventually found advice on YouTube, it wasn’t easy,,, every video assumed the basics were known and skipped that to show how to move things around to different environments... I hadn’t got a clue,
I opened up a reply box in here, I started typing, but I couldn’t then copy anything, this is also true when I try to reply to a previous reply, once in the reply box I cannot then copy anything.
Anyway was feeling rather useless, rant over, all good,
feel free to post advice, I may not get it first time round, but I won’t ask if I don’t.
take care everyone, your all amazing people. ()
I know exactly where you're coming from. I hate that horrible vicious circle that it's possible to get into, where you can end up never finding out how something works because, even when they've stopped laughing or accusing you of being awkward or argumentative, people still don't tell you the answer at the end of it - so you're forced to make the same mistakes over and over again.
As the old saying goes; "there are no stupid questions, only stupid answers" - if only the world really worked like that!
FWIW, I don't find this forum particularly intuitive to use, either, and I think the software tries to be too clever for its own good. There are some kinds of formatted text that it seems impossible to copy and paste correctly, and too many features hidden away under little sub-menus. To be fair, the web admin has acknowledged that the post editor can be a bit flaky sometimes, but given that it's an autism website, quite often used by people who are new to using forums, there really should be at least a link somewhere to some clear guidance on how to use all of the features.
And remember, this forum is not the outside world, it's a bunch of people many of whom have similar problems to you. If you need to ask twice, or even ten times, then do - I only have to stop using a skill for a couple of weeks sometimes before I have to go back to basic and learn it all over again. We should never criticise each other for what we do or don't know, or what skills we do or don't have - you have shown yourself to be a very generous and compassionate member of the forum who supports people whenever you can; that's what really matters!
Thank you so much - I spent ages looking for a simple help guide. It would make things so much easier to understand. I don't like asking for help generally and it's the same when using a forum like this. It wouldn't need to be complicated, in fact the simpler the better. Even a few FAQs would be good. I thought of starting a forum user guide thread, but the problem with that is it would get lost amongst all the others. It really needs to be clearly visible at all times. If we wrote one do you think the webmaster would put it up?