I want life to stop

I'm sorry, I need to vent about the above post and say:

How can you be here for anyone, as a "deleted user"? 

Then when people change their minds (as so many do), the continuity is lost..

I'm sorry, but if you have Autism then THESE are our people.

Running away from us, seems uncomfortably like running away from yourself... 

dear I S, Sometimes we all need to be the wall flower, sometimes behind the wall flower, looking in. Be kind to our kin. They strive to express themselves as they will, as you do, yes? 

We are a spectrum.

I Sperg said:

I am concerned about how very, very, few of our kin can actually get along. 

This autistic community is a very small representation of our neurokin. There are many other autistic communities including Aucademy where there is unity and connection without arguments or disagreements.

Arguments and disagreements are just a result of being part of a community with opposing views. The only way that arguments could be potentially reduced is by agreeing to rules before you join the community, the current rules don’t cover that. But then again if this was imposed we probably wouldn’t have the in depth discussions we have now.

Unless we ask we do not know why someone has left. I find in life it is rarely one thing which causes something to happen. I have decided to re-post this comment after deleting it. I'm not taking sides with anyone or commenting further.

I try very hard to be kind to our kin.I do my best to live by the golden rule. 

I am concerned about how very, very, few of our kin can actually get along. 

It seems to be an issue that many shy away from addressing, (with good reason as it is painful), but if you are unwilling to even contemplate honestly, let alone try to address your own issues, you get "the first half of my life", which was full of suicidal ideation and loneliness and anger. 

I would not wish that on anyone, and as it recedes into my past, yet certain posters here forcibly demonstrate they are not so lucky, I feel compared to share the things I know have contributed to my own rehabilitation.

Every so often someone stands up to shrilly argue how "wrong headed" I am, which is great, people OUGHT to be presented with / allowed diversity of thought, (even when they are grieviously mistaken! ;c) which if I am specifically trying to help someone solve a problem, can be a distraction, but to then, LEAVE??

It's the very definition of INTOLERANCE.

"Intolerance" I believe is wrong, yet I've practiced it myself on many an occasion. I try to not let it dominate my actions however, such that it leads to me "cutting off my own nose to spite my face" as the old saying puts it, so eloquently.

Debbie is a valued, and I believe, well respected member of this community, who sadly spent far too long concentrating on fighting for a cause, rather than "picking the best, and ignoring the rest". I keep a track (loosely) of where my upvotes and downvotes come from, and Debbie frankly used to surprise me with how often she'd upvote one of my posts, yet too many of my interactions with her seemed to be adversarial...

I hope she comes back.  

I try very hard to be kind to our kin.I do my best to live by the golden rule. 

I am concerned about how very, very, few of our kin can actually get along. 

It seems to be an issue that many shy away from addressing, (with good reason as it is painful), but if you are unwilling to even contemplate honestly, let alone try to address your own issues, you get "the first half of my life", which was full of suicidal ideation and loneliness and anger. 

I would not wish that on anyone, and as it recedes into my past, yet certain posters here forcibly demonstrate they are not so lucky, I feel compared to share the things I know have contributed to my own rehabilitation.

Every so often someone stands up to shrilly argue how "wrong headed" I am, which is great, people OUGHT to be presented with / allowed diversity of thought, (even when they are grieviously mistaken! ;c) which if I am specifically trying to help someone solve a problem, can be a distraction, but to then, LEAVE??

It's the very definition of INTOLERANCE.

"Intolerance" I believe is wrong, yet I've practiced it myself on many an occasion. I try to not let it dominate my actions however, such that it leads to me "cutting off my own nose to spite my face" as the old saying puts it, so eloquently.

Debbie is a valued, and I believe, well respected member of this community, who sadly spent far too long concentrating on fighting for a cause, rather than "picking the best, and ignoring the rest". I keep a track (loosely) of where my upvotes and downvotes come from, and Debbie frankly used to surprise me with how often she'd upvote one of my posts, yet too many of my interactions with her seemed to be adversarial...

I hope she comes back.  

I Sperg said:

I am concerned about how very, very, few of our kin can actually get along. 

This autistic community is a very small representation of our neurokin. There are many other autistic communities including Aucademy where there is unity and connection without arguments or disagreements.

Arguments and disagreements are just a result of being part of a community with opposing views. The only way that arguments could be potentially reduced is by agreeing to rules before you join the community, the current rules don’t cover that. But then again if this was imposed we probably wouldn’t have the in depth discussions we have now.

Unless we ask we do not know why someone has left. I find in life it is rarely one thing which causes something to happen. I have decided to re-post this comment after deleting it. I'm not taking sides with anyone or commenting further.