Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi Everyone,
Firstly i want to apologise. I feel like i only come on here to moan. Im really not a woe is me type person, or at least i try not to be. Its just from past experience the people here often understand what i mean more than even my own wife.
Some of you may already know, but i have severe long term depression. I have tried many therapies, several anti depressants, but to no avail. The ups and downs still get me.
My wife dropped a bombshell yesterday. I thought i have been doing quite well recently. I have felt like maybe i was turning a corner. It turns out that i am so used to feeling this way it it normal for me.
We were putting up the xmas decorations and i asked if we could finish them another day. I was so fatigued, it was such an effort to be engaged. I said something along the lines of 'i dont know whats the matter, i just dont have any motivation at the moment'.
She said i have been that way for months. Thinking about it she is right. I go to work and come home. It seems that just getting through the working day uses me up and by the time i get home i dont want to do anything. I have nearly no appetite, and nothing really brings me joy. Sometimes even taking a shower feels like its more than i can manage.
My wife asked me how i feel about myself and i lied. I said i feel fine. Truth is i hate myself. Ive felt like that for a long time and i want to hurt myself more and more. I want to scar myself (i have many already), as a punishment. I dont know where this self loathing comes from but it has always been with me. I have never felt good enough.
Anyway the more i think about it the more i realise im not getting better at all. Im actually very unwell. My thoughts have been gravitating towards flirting with suicide again. I have my secret exit kit stashed at work and without really realising it i keep thinking about it and fantasising about using it.
I dont really know what im asking from you all. I think just telling someone and being honest is maybe what i needed.
If anyone has had any similar times and doesnt mind sharing id be glad to hear your story.
Thanks
Dogtooth
Hello everyone,
Im still fighting the good fight, no fear.
I think im just a little disheartened really is all. Ive tried really hard (especially this last year), and done everything recommended by GP's and Psychiatrist. Ive spend soooo much money on various therapies and put in a lot of work. Taken all manner of pills and the other day i just felt like what is the point.
I havent had much in the way of a traumatic past, just the usual stuff that comes with life. So its really hard to understand why i just feel so crappy most of the time. If the world was black and white and my life was analysed then there is no reason at all to feel depressed. I understand it doesnt work like that, its just very tiring some times constantly pushing forwards.
Anyhow. I just wanted to say thank you all again. I appreciate all of you. Hopefully in not too distant a future my rollercoaster will start its climb again and things will be a little easier for a spell.
Or maybe this is a dream and i will wake up in a barn surrounded by goats living my best life. We can dream right?