(Repost) My feelings for female users.

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"Be nice to one another and enjoy chatting with others. We encourage conversation and respectful debate; please be aware that individuals may give opinions which are not shared by other members. Insulting posts or comments making personal jibes will not be tolerated."

And finally this thing should just be locked.

https://www.deviantart.com/ashleygamer1995

Leave you alone ?

This may have escaped your notice, so i'll reiterate: i have left you alone for the better part of  3 years.

You were not on my radar for 3 years, I havent even thought about you for almost 3 years.

I am only here because  you decided to drag my name and the names of others on  Deviantart through the mud  in a  transparent play to  fish for pity. People on here  recognized it for what it was, and called you out on it. 

Actions have consequences, you are not the victim here but the aggressor.

This entire debacle is entirely your own fault.

You decided on your own accord to  drag my name and that of  others through the mud and  now that I am here to call you out on it you cry foul play.

And as always you shirk the responsibility of your own actions.

This wil be my last post on the entire affair.

The people on here don’t want or need this nonsense.   

https://www.deviantart.com/ashleygamer1995

Leave you alone ?

This may have escaped your notice, so i'll reiterate: i have left you alone for the better part of  3 years.

You were not on my radar for 3 years, I havent even thought about you for almost 3 years.

I am only here because  you decided to drag my name and the names of others on  Deviantart through the mud  in a  transparent play to  fish for pity. People on here  recognized it for what it was, and called you out on it. 

Actions have consequences, you are not the victim here but the aggressor.

This entire debacle is entirely your own fault.

You decided on your own accord to  drag my name and that of  others through the mud and  now that I am here to call you out on it you cry foul play.

And as always you shirk the responsibility of your own actions.

Edit: Anyway.  This is my last  post on this matter. I have made my position clear. I gave context to at least one incident, and that's where my involvement here ends.

The people of this forum don't want or need all this nonsense.

Reminder rule 5

"Be nice to one another and enjoy chatting with others. We encourage conversation and respectful debate; please be aware that individuals may give opinions which are not shared by other members. Insulting posts or comments making personal jibes will not be tolerated."

@AFthePokemonLover

And here we go again. Instead of learning  about your experience  your retreat  in your echo chamber. 

Blaming everybody and everything except your own behavior  right here on your own Deviantart  front page  

https://www.deviantart.com/ashleygamer1995  Don't worry I made a screenshot.  

The irony of the matter is that  i have been over this  for  nearly  3 years now, it is you who are not over it.

You who decided to dig a hole, and dig it even deeper.

I left you alone for more then 3 years now but  you  chose to drag me and other back in to it, and then you are surprised people take you  to  task for your behavior.    

And you  blocked me on Deviantart, I cant even defend myself on there, I had to come here.

As far as I am concerned it was all over already, so the consequences of your own behavior are coming back to haunt you.

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I really should wash my hands of all this  but  each time I try i get pulled back in, so here we are.

Well well well, what do we have here.

Originally i wasn't planning to comment or to get involved,

But as one of the people involved  in the  original  post I suppose I should say a few things and  straighten a few  facts.

I speak for nobody but myself.

My involvement with the OP was  2 to  3 years ago,   and in the mean time it appears he  has not changed  a bit  shirking  responsibility and playing the victim, which was one of my main points of contention with him.

The fact that  I moved on and  OP hasn't and is still brooding over it does not paint him in the best of lights.

I came in to contact with him via fox related group I was running on  Deviantart.

Our interactions were usually brief.

He blocked me twice, the second time because I wasn't interested in his apology and has already washed my hands off him, because  he showed he wasn't  willing or able to  take  responsibility for his actions, nor capable of changing.

After that I shrugged it al off and went on with my day, the whole thing had little impact on me as it is  

For the record he did  NOT harass me of Deviantart, I left on my own account at  least a year after the  encounter, after I lost interest in posting there.

I had  totally forgotten about him and the whole thing untill i was  made aware of  this here https://community.autism.org.uk/f/mental-health-and-wellbeing/32638/why-are-female-users-and-artists-more-ruder-than-male-ones-on-the-internet?Redirected=true where I was mentioned.

The fact that the encounter with me, he mentioned took place  2  years ago does not paint him in a good light.

However that is as far as  my involvement will go, I wanted to shed some light on at least one encounter.

I do not see myself as a "victim" just somebody that crossed paths with him.

While the OP needs to learn to let things go and not think that  "naming and shaming" people on a totally different forum with out them even being able to  defend themselves, will not get him anywhere.

imdonenow said:

Those certain female users snapped at me, even though I wasn't doing a wrong thing, technically speaking. It's only them that think so.

That is not what you said  on https://community.autism.org.uk/f/mental-health-and-wellbeing/32638/why-are-female-users-and-artists-more-ruder-than-male-ones-on-the-internet can you just stop blaming your victims for how you feel about the decisions you made freely.

imdonenow said:

Maybe I did harass them, but it's a mistake. Can't ever tell at first. Don't blame me or anything. Everyone makes harassments, accidentally or not. I'm no different, put it that way.

imdonenow said:

And before you might say "harassment", please note that, I do not like that word. It just makes me worse, that's all, especially when used against me. Today isn't brilliant for me, alright? Good.

You said you harrassed them, I only said you could have for all I knew, but you confirmed it explicitly by admitting to have done so. You don't get to play innocent and dodge the words that describe exactly what you admitted you did. Stop playing the innocent, you are not a victim of anything other than your own choices, it only looks worse when people see what else you said... your own words not put in your mouth by anyone else.

"I started off perfectly aware, knowing the obvious right and wrong"

but  if you know right from wrong you can't keep making excuses. You don't want to look like a bad guy but that is exactly what you are doing the more you dig this hole rather than admit you did wrong and leave it alone to reflect on how to not repeat those patterns of  behaviour.
I'm not sorry I feel bad for the women you admitted to harrassing, I'm not sorry for pointing it out, and you feeling bad should make you stop and consider how you made them feel when you did this to them and then whine about being blocked by them to a bunch of strangers on a whole other platform. You aren't the only one feeling bad, do you think the women members here who read your tirade feel safe to talk to you here after seeing you character assassinate a load of women for not putting you above their own needs? And many of the DA users you mentioned have deactivated accounts and no doubt you did not help them feel welcome to stay there. Your feelings are not the only ones that matter.

imdonenow said:

Those certain female users snapped at me, even though I wasn't doing a wrong thing, technically speaking. It's only them that think so.

Hello there, I think where you are making the mistakes that lead to these repsonses is based in two things:

1 - how the conversation progresses from the initial pleasantries (well used ground and easy to follow) to the next stages where a connection is being established. It appears your behaviour / expectations do not align with the girls in quite a lot of the cases.

2 - the girls have most likely experienced plenty of unwelcomed male advances in the past (this is a common male problem and not just ausism related) and have developed a filter to keep this away. To get though the filter you need to have some connection that makes them want to speak more to you.

Something males do not always appreciate that it can be really unpleasany for them having loads of males chasing after them for their attentions. Intimidating barely begins to cover it so it is quite natural that they will have to find a way to block out many of these advances otherwise they would never get anything done.

There is no agreement that says they have to reply to you at all - the fact that they exchanged pleasantries when online is actually nice of them. There is certainly no agreement or reason that they should need to become friends with you just because you want it - that is not how society works.

The push back you experienced is a sign that you need to understand more about how this social interaction works - the book I recommended on the other thread should give you a good starting point for this.

imdonenow said:

Yes I admit I made problems before and they were just accidents, but forgive. I am just trying my best from now on.

Acknowledging that you have made mistakes is the starting point for learning to be better.

I would humbly suggest that learning about what is acceptable behaviour is the best place to start for you. Read and understand and it should start to make sense.

Change is hard but I think you will appreciate it once you learn more.