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(Repost) My feelings for female users.

imdonenow

Let me start again, simple and honest.

Now, since the very beginning of my joining a social site like DeviantArt, when I was 24, I started off perfectly aware, knowing the obvious right and wrong. So, basically, just wrote normal comments on various artworks and notes to people saying "that's nice" and "how do you do". Yes, nicey nicey to begin with always.

But, of course, not everyone will see that, I know. Especially not some female users, which, after I've been doing the right thing (greeting, introduction, etc.) at the start, for some reason they did not take interest, or are just busy, or don't have any kind of kindness. Those certain female users snapped at me, even though I wasn't doing a wrong thing, technically speaking. It's only them that think so.

With the thing about female users, that is why... I can feel pretty down about it, since I lack any good female friend as "just a friend", not "girlfriend". But I ask, casually, is there an honest girl somewhere here on NAS or elsewhere who might wish to build a new relationship with me? I only have male friends, that is. But I'm just saying, my mistakes in the past were unintended and natural. I always tried to do my best for right, not for wrong. Most of the time.

And before you might say "harassment", please note that, I do not like that word. It just makes me worse, that's all, especially when used against me. Today isn't brilliant for me, alright? Good.

Anyway... So yes, currently (but not always at least) I am feeling sad, that when I think about those unfortunate times I had before, female users lashing at me because of certain things that happened, it makes me depressed and "not worthy", as well that I wish there were properly nice girls as friends to have chats and understanding with, even if it is just only one friend that's enough already. Yes I admit I made problems before and they were just accidents, but forgive. I am just trying my best from now on. And about those female users I mentioned in the other topic, I know their behaviours, so I will leave them alone. Instead for now, I would of appreciated actual agreements of comfort from others and a kind girl somewhere who may seek to get connected with me. But, thing is, I don't choose to look into others' topics for the opportunity or such. Sorry, it's just how I feel.

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  • imdonenow said:
    Those certain female users snapped at me, even though I wasn't doing a wrong thing, technically speaking. It's only them that think so.

    That is not what you said  on https://community.autism.org.uk/f/mental-health-and-wellbeing/32638/why-are-female-users-and-artists-more-ruder-than-male-ones-on-the-internet can you just stop blaming your victims for how you feel about the decisions you made freely.

    imdonenow said:
    Maybe I did harass them, but it's a mistake. Can't ever tell at first. Don't blame me or anything. Everyone makes harassments, accidentally or not. I'm no different, put it that way.
    imdonenow said:
    And before you might say "harassment", please note that, I do not like that word. It just makes me worse, that's all, especially when used against me. Today isn't brilliant for me, alright? Good.

    You said you harrassed them, I only said you could have for all I knew, but you confirmed it explicitly by admitting to have done so. You don't get to play innocent and dodge the words that describe exactly what you admitted you did. Stop playing the innocent, you are not a victim of anything other than your own choices, it only looks worse when people see what else you said... your own words not put in your mouth by anyone else.

    "I started off perfectly aware, knowing the obvious right and wrong"

    but  if you know right from wrong you can't keep making excuses. You don't want to look like a bad guy but that is exactly what you are doing the more you dig this hole rather than admit you did wrong and leave it alone to reflect on how to not repeat those patterns of  behaviour.
    I'm not sorry I feel bad for the women you admitted to harrassing, I'm not sorry for pointing it out, and you feeling bad should make you stop and consider how you made them feel when you did this to them and then whine about being blocked by them to a bunch of strangers on a whole other platform. You aren't the only one feeling bad, do you think the women members here who read your tirade feel safe to talk to you here after seeing you character assassinate a load of women for not putting you above their own needs? And many of the DA users you mentioned have deactivated accounts and no doubt you did not help them feel welcome to stay there. Your feelings are not the only ones that matter.

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  • imdonenow said:
    Those certain female users snapped at me, even though I wasn't doing a wrong thing, technically speaking. It's only them that think so.

    That is not what you said  on https://community.autism.org.uk/f/mental-health-and-wellbeing/32638/why-are-female-users-and-artists-more-ruder-than-male-ones-on-the-internet can you just stop blaming your victims for how you feel about the decisions you made freely.

    imdonenow said:
    Maybe I did harass them, but it's a mistake. Can't ever tell at first. Don't blame me or anything. Everyone makes harassments, accidentally or not. I'm no different, put it that way.
    imdonenow said:
    And before you might say "harassment", please note that, I do not like that word. It just makes me worse, that's all, especially when used against me. Today isn't brilliant for me, alright? Good.

    You said you harrassed them, I only said you could have for all I knew, but you confirmed it explicitly by admitting to have done so. You don't get to play innocent and dodge the words that describe exactly what you admitted you did. Stop playing the innocent, you are not a victim of anything other than your own choices, it only looks worse when people see what else you said... your own words not put in your mouth by anyone else.

    "I started off perfectly aware, knowing the obvious right and wrong"

    but  if you know right from wrong you can't keep making excuses. You don't want to look like a bad guy but that is exactly what you are doing the more you dig this hole rather than admit you did wrong and leave it alone to reflect on how to not repeat those patterns of  behaviour.
    I'm not sorry I feel bad for the women you admitted to harrassing, I'm not sorry for pointing it out, and you feeling bad should make you stop and consider how you made them feel when you did this to them and then whine about being blocked by them to a bunch of strangers on a whole other platform. You aren't the only one feeling bad, do you think the women members here who read your tirade feel safe to talk to you here after seeing you character assassinate a load of women for not putting you above their own needs? And many of the DA users you mentioned have deactivated accounts and no doubt you did not help them feel welcome to stay there. Your feelings are not the only ones that matter.

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