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(Repost) My feelings for female users.

imdonenow

Let me start again, simple and honest.

Now, since the very beginning of my joining a social site like DeviantArt, when I was 24, I started off perfectly aware, knowing the obvious right and wrong. So, basically, just wrote normal comments on various artworks and notes to people saying "that's nice" and "how do you do". Yes, nicey nicey to begin with always.

But, of course, not everyone will see that, I know. Especially not some female users, which, after I've been doing the right thing (greeting, introduction, etc.) at the start, for some reason they did not take interest, or are just busy, or don't have any kind of kindness. Those certain female users snapped at me, even though I wasn't doing a wrong thing, technically speaking. It's only them that think so.

With the thing about female users, that is why... I can feel pretty down about it, since I lack any good female friend as "just a friend", not "girlfriend". But I ask, casually, is there an honest girl somewhere here on NAS or elsewhere who might wish to build a new relationship with me? I only have male friends, that is. But I'm just saying, my mistakes in the past were unintended and natural. I always tried to do my best for right, not for wrong. Most of the time.

And before you might say "harassment", please note that, I do not like that word. It just makes me worse, that's all, especially when used against me. Today isn't brilliant for me, alright? Good.

Anyway... So yes, currently (but not always at least) I am feeling sad, that when I think about those unfortunate times I had before, female users lashing at me because of certain things that happened, it makes me depressed and "not worthy", as well that I wish there were properly nice girls as friends to have chats and understanding with, even if it is just only one friend that's enough already. Yes I admit I made problems before and they were just accidents, but forgive. I am just trying my best from now on. And about those female users I mentioned in the other topic, I know their behaviours, so I will leave them alone. Instead for now, I would of appreciated actual agreements of comfort from others and a kind girl somewhere who may seek to get connected with me. But, thing is, I don't choose to look into others' topics for the opportunity or such. Sorry, it's just how I feel.

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  • Well well well, what do we have here.

    Originally i wasn't planning to comment or to get involved,

    But as one of the people involved  in the  original  post I suppose I should say a few things and  straighten a few  facts.

    I speak for nobody but myself.

    My involvement with the OP was  2 to  3 years ago,   and in the mean time it appears he  has not changed  a bit  shirking  responsibility and playing the victim, which was one of my main points of contention with him.

    The fact that  I moved on and  OP hasn't and is still brooding over it does not paint him in the best of lights.

    I came in to contact with him via fox related group I was running on  Deviantart.

    Our interactions were usually brief.

    He blocked me twice, the second time because I wasn't interested in his apology and has already washed my hands off him, because  he showed he wasn't  willing or able to  take  responsibility for his actions, nor capable of changing.

    After that I shrugged it al off and went on with my day, the whole thing had little impact on me as it is  

    For the record he did  NOT harass me of Deviantart, I left on my own account at  least a year after the  encounter, after I lost interest in posting there.

    I had  totally forgotten about him and the whole thing untill i was  made aware of  this here https://community.autism.org.uk/f/mental-health-and-wellbeing/32638/why-are-female-users-and-artists-more-ruder-than-male-ones-on-the-internet?Redirected=true where I was mentioned.

    The fact that the encounter with me, he mentioned took place  2  years ago does not paint him in a good light.

    However that is as far as  my involvement will go, I wanted to shed some light on at least one encounter.

    I do not see myself as a "victim" just somebody that crossed paths with him.

    While the OP needs to learn to let things go and not think that  "naming and shaming" people on a totally different forum with out them even being able to  defend themselves, will not get him anywhere.

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  • Well well well, what do we have here.

    Originally i wasn't planning to comment or to get involved,

    But as one of the people involved  in the  original  post I suppose I should say a few things and  straighten a few  facts.

    I speak for nobody but myself.

    My involvement with the OP was  2 to  3 years ago,   and in the mean time it appears he  has not changed  a bit  shirking  responsibility and playing the victim, which was one of my main points of contention with him.

    The fact that  I moved on and  OP hasn't and is still brooding over it does not paint him in the best of lights.

    I came in to contact with him via fox related group I was running on  Deviantart.

    Our interactions were usually brief.

    He blocked me twice, the second time because I wasn't interested in his apology and has already washed my hands off him, because  he showed he wasn't  willing or able to  take  responsibility for his actions, nor capable of changing.

    After that I shrugged it al off and went on with my day, the whole thing had little impact on me as it is  

    For the record he did  NOT harass me of Deviantart, I left on my own account at  least a year after the  encounter, after I lost interest in posting there.

    I had  totally forgotten about him and the whole thing untill i was  made aware of  this here https://community.autism.org.uk/f/mental-health-and-wellbeing/32638/why-are-female-users-and-artists-more-ruder-than-male-ones-on-the-internet?Redirected=true where I was mentioned.

    The fact that the encounter with me, he mentioned took place  2  years ago does not paint him in a good light.

    However that is as far as  my involvement will go, I wanted to shed some light on at least one encounter.

    I do not see myself as a "victim" just somebody that crossed paths with him.

    While the OP needs to learn to let things go and not think that  "naming and shaming" people on a totally different forum with out them even being able to  defend themselves, will not get him anywhere.

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