Published on 12, July, 2020
Are there any single, heterosexual girls on here aged between 29-40 in North East Wales, Chester and surrounding areas?
I have tried pretty much all the mainstream dating sites since late 2018 with “interesting results”. Pre-Pandemic, I was stood up four times, twice by the same girl. For one of these no shows, I travelled on two trains with no reply but they had read my messages. One of the two by the same girl, I waited in a Wrexham coffee shop for two hours with excuse after excuse coming my way. At least, I could watch the famous Ben Stokes Headingley Ashes Test of 2019 on my phone at the time! None of these girls were Neurodiverse.
One girl, who was autistic and a Headteacher, heavily criticised my entire family without even meeting them before saying I wasn’t enough of an Alpha make for her. Made sense that she had been divorced twice. Her profiles pictures online were a bit “risqué” to say for someone in her alleged profession.
Then there was one girl I went on two dates with, who I had my first kiss with aged 34, who asked to stop dating before getting her best mate from work to send me a long message via text before the girl messaged herself messaged me via WhatsApp and Text (before I blocked her on both. She was back on a well known dating site by this point. She then emailed me asking me to marry her! Incredibly this girl, who wasn’t Neurodiverse, worked with autistic adults, had children of her own and had run to her local Tory councillor. My late, beloved mother phoned her to ask her to leave me while I was out at a Welsh Premier football match.
Just before the Pandemic, I realised that it was best to date Neurodiverse girls. So, after meeting up with a girl for three months who had one Neurodiverse condition and possibly another Pre-Pandemic I took a break when it was going off. I lost my late, beloved mother, who had done literally everything for me, during the Pandemic very suddenly with COVID and Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease so I wasn’t in the right frame anyway.
Post-Pandemic I had my first ever girlfriend at the age of 37. We were together for the first six months of 2022 before distance travelling of us going in between me in Wrexham and her “Mancheshire” get the better of us. She was Epileptic so didn’t drive and neither did I after trying to drive an automatic for two years of lessons either side of the Pandemic. I really enjoyed this experience and we really liked each other family’s too.
So, now I am asking if there are any single, heterosexual girls on here aged between 29-40 in Wrexham, Flintshire, Chester and very near surrounding areas to talk to after explaining the above.
Lucky you haven't experienced low functioning yet
Have you considered it's that division you make that keeps autistic women away from you ? They are masters of disguise you wouldn't guess it's that
It sends a message you consider yourself somewhat better
I have many times encountered those with Learning Disabilities with autism be it in school, in my current job or generally when I have given nonprofit speeches on my condition. I attended an awful lot of events in North Wales and Wirral in the five years leading up to the Pandemic promoting my books. A lot of people who were autistic who were there were usually children or those who clearly didn’t represent what me and my family believe.
I don’t mind if you work, whether you watch Anime or anything else I was illustrating that I don’t fit the stereotypes. My first ever girlfriend I had earlier this year wasn’t in paid work but they had more of an issue with me, as I had zero bother with it.
Nonetheless I require having my sister to be my full-time carer this is hence I used “high functioning” in quote marks as it wasn’t me using the term as it isn’t something I subscribe to. Autism is autism in my eyes just with an exceedingly broad spectrum as well as being a very complex condition. To illustrate this, I have an above average intelligence quotient, can write three published books, work part time in two jobs over the years but I can’t tie my shoelaces, ride a bike or undertake basic tasks around the house.
I just seemingly don’t fit any boxes of adults with autism in my area who have been diagnosed as early as I was at age four in April 1989. Some I meet tend to have been diagnosed late or aren’t even aware they are on the spectrum. By this time they have drifted through life, possibly even having a family, a partner and a career but not realising their idiosyncratic eccentricities are probably them being autistic.
There doesn’t tend to be girls in my area on the spectrum of a compatible ilk and age demographic to me without having children or are in a relationship. If I lived in one of Merseyside, Wirral, “Mancheshire” or Greater Manchester I would encounter more people on the spectrum that I could relate to. I know from experience that I would as so have in the past but I don’t drive so it isn’t easy to travel regularly.