Published on 12, July, 2020
Are there any single, heterosexual girls on here aged between 29-40 in North East Wales, Chester and surrounding areas?
I have tried pretty much all the mainstream dating sites since late 2018 with “interesting results”. Pre-Pandemic, I was stood up four times, twice by the same girl. For one of these no shows, I travelled on two trains with no reply but they had read my messages. One of the two by the same girl, I waited in a Wrexham coffee shop for two hours with excuse after excuse coming my way. At least, I could watch the famous Ben Stokes Headingley Ashes Test of 2019 on my phone at the time! None of these girls were Neurodiverse.
One girl, who was autistic and a Headteacher, heavily criticised my entire family without even meeting them before saying I wasn’t enough of an Alpha make for her. Made sense that she had been divorced twice. Her profiles pictures online were a bit “risqué” to say for someone in her alleged profession.
Then there was one girl I went on two dates with, who I had my first kiss with aged 34, who asked to stop dating before getting her best mate from work to send me a long message via text before the girl messaged herself messaged me via WhatsApp and Text (before I blocked her on both. She was back on a well known dating site by this point. She then emailed me asking me to marry her! Incredibly this girl, who wasn’t Neurodiverse, worked with autistic adults, had children of her own and had run to her local Tory councillor. My late, beloved mother phoned her to ask her to leave me while I was out at a Welsh Premier football match.
Just before the Pandemic, I realised that it was best to date Neurodiverse girls. So, after meeting up with a girl for three months who had one Neurodiverse condition and possibly another Pre-Pandemic I took a break when it was going off. I lost my late, beloved mother, who had done literally everything for me, during the Pandemic very suddenly with COVID and Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease so I wasn’t in the right frame anyway.
Post-Pandemic I had my first ever girlfriend at the age of 37. We were together for the first six months of 2022 before distance travelling of us going in between me in Wrexham and her “Mancheshire” get the better of us. She was Epileptic so didn’t drive and neither did I after trying to drive an automatic for two years of lessons either side of the Pandemic. I really enjoyed this experience and we really liked each other family’s too.
So, now I am asking if there are any single, heterosexual girls on here aged between 29-40 in Wrexham, Flintshire, Chester and very near surrounding areas to talk to after explaining the above.
This isn’t a pick up joint. There will be meet-ups in your area with other ND’s if you search hard enough, and you might well meet someone there. There are also a few dating apps that you could try. You might make more ND friends, leading to meeting other people….who knows? Hiki, and Autistic Empathy.
If you struggle at all with nuances and reading characters and realising what isn’t being said, I would avoid typical dating apps.
I know what is available in Wrexham for those who are classed as “high functioning” along with being an adult. I.e. nothing. I actually work for a local autism charity, who are one of the few active, possibly only one, in the county who specialise in Autism. There is very little for adults in my area on the spectrum full stop, especially those who are fortunate enough to be “high-functioning” when it comes to expressing themselves.
I don’t particularly struggle with nuances as much as some people who aren’t on the spectrum in certain scenarios. I have plenty of mates in the “real world” who are male and female, none of whom are on the spectrum. I am actually known for being very perceptive along with self-awareness.
Regarding more autistic friends, I don’t play computer games or are interested in Disney, Anime, Manga et al. I have varied interests that an awful lot of non-autistic would have. See my profile.
i have read the reviews for Hiki from past posts in this site and they are awful. I was also on an Autistic Dating site two years but there was literally no one within my area (North East Wales, Chester, Wirral).
Why do you keep going on about high functioning? Autism is autism. Your whole post is based on stereotypes and assumptions. Not all autistic folk are the same, or like the same things. Lots of us function exceptionally well in the big wide world, and have a family to take care of as well, but we all have deficits somewhere or we wouldn’t have qualified for a diagnosis.
Again you are making assumptions about HIKI. You are just reading ‘some’ reviews. What about trying it for a couple of months yourself and then decide it’s awful?
Autisitc empathy has members across the country. You decide whether you’re there for friends or for a relationship. Have a look at it, or don’t. And if you don’t have many groups in your area, try travelling a little if you are able, or create a group yourself. Easy peasy. Many people swear by the meet up app for finding people with similar interests.
In fact, why not just look at all the activities in your local area? The local council will have a list of all clubs and societies you can join. But one would imagine that since you have loads of friends, you would be getting out there enough anyway, in order to meet plenty of women? What do you think is the problem?….
i know an awful lot about the activities in the local area. I constantly keep my eye open. They are so non-existent that I am thinking of starting a group for over 25 Neurodiverse people of all conditions who are “high functioning” (also don’t be pedantic over my use of the term as it is commonly used by an awful lot of people).There isn’t anything trust me in the City isn’t should be a City where I live in Wales. It was named in 2022a City as part of the Jubilee. but it is all but that in reality. It is really a medium sized town.
The reviews I read on Hiki were actually from this very forum. They were beyond scathing to be honest. I have tried all the mainstream dating sites. Read my “varied” experiences within my first post. I also don’t drink and the only time I have ever gone for a night out is to a gig either of comedy or music or to a sporting event.
Although I have lots of mate both male with several female 99% are in long term relationships, married and have children. Also, quite a few live across the country as I met them when I worked at Manchester United Television.
Also, I wasn’t ready for a relationship when I was at Manchester United Television and there certainly isn’t anyone amongst the few people I work with now or at the gym I go to.
I still haven’t met many men near the spectrum with my interests never mind ladies. I don’t play computer games, watch Anime and Manga, read comic books or watch Disney/Superhero movies. Interests aren’t everything to me looking for a relationship as they only have to respected and not necessarily joined in together with as even a good romantic couple spent quality time apart. This is what would make it a quality relationship with potential for the long term.