Losing a close friend.

You might have to gird your loins if its a NT Mark. It might be that our few close friends when NT are literally are unable to understand what it was about us when it comes to the disorientation to the friendship that tends to take place over a long period. It may not be the same for you, but in my case the loss was actually very gradual & i didn't see it happening. We might say to ourselves that they might have been more considerate toward our neurological plight. My friends didn't know of any particular struggle in order to give empathy to it, whilst i struggled pre diagnosis they just saw it as complications not to be nosey about. Mine could have been a bit more curious perhaps, but thats splitting hairs. Long friendships go on a vibe i think. Our friends just don't know whats spoiling that sense of wonderment. But there might come a time when some illusions shatter. It could be true to say that deep inside friendship powers itself on illusions we allow to give things the feel good factor with friendships. If so. mine lost the factor & it wasn't a quick decision by my friends that it didn't appeal anymore. For that matter friendship is kind of an emotional attachment outside of our conscious senses. Therefore if something happens to that emotion its also outside of the control of that person. The only thing i know that can help is space. But also taking care to avoid anything that might be the long term disillusionment. I cry a lot for long lost friends where i did not come to these conclusions anything like in time - not even close.

Perhaps none of this applies in your instance. Good luck i hope something works out for the best.

You might have to gird your loins if its a NT Mark. It might be that our few close friends when NT are literally are unable to understand what it was about us when it comes to the disorientation to the friendship that tends to take place over a long period. It may not be the same for you, but in my case the loss was actually very gradual & i didn't see it happening. We might say to ourselves that they might have been more considerate toward our neurological plight. My friends didn't know of any particular struggle in order to give empathy to it, whilst i struggled pre diagnosis they just saw it as complications not to be nosey about. Mine could have been a bit more curious perhaps, but thats splitting hairs. Long friendships go on a vibe i think. Our friends just don't know whats spoiling that sense of wonderment. But there might come a time when some illusions shatter. It could be true to say that deep inside friendship powers itself on illusions we allow to give things the feel good factor with friendships. If so. mine lost the factor & it wasn't a quick decision by my friends that it didn't appeal anymore. For that matter friendship is kind of an emotional attachment outside of our conscious senses. Therefore if something happens to that emotion its also outside of the control of that person. The only thing i know that can help is space. But also taking care to avoid anything that might be the long term disillusionment. I cry a lot for long lost friends where i did not come to these conclusions anything like in time - not even close.

Perhaps none of this applies in your instance. Good luck i hope something works out for the best.