Published on 12, July, 2020
I don't know where to turn here my Daughter has Autism but was let down by CAMS when she turned 16 so had no help .
She was bullied all through school and the school had help in place for her.
She is now 17 and has gone through her first year of college with no problems as she has tried to keep he autism a secret. Last week she made a mistake by posting a meme on a group chat without thinking and another student said it made the feel awkward so she said sorry and removed it. She was in her second year and now all the bullying starts because of this one girl who has started a hate group against her. She has bee bullied and assaulted by the other students in her group. She went for help but was told it's her own fault by the staff. She has now been thrown out of college which was the only thing she had in her life that kept her calm.
The college say there is nothing we can do there is no way of having this reversed what they say is final. I have put a post on Facebook and seem to have support but i don't know where we stand. Here is a copy of that post.
Hello JamesThis makes for quite disturbing reading. There is nothing more vile for me than bullying in all its forms. Sadly, it is virus that infects every walk of life, every company, every institution, and every organisation.
James said:She has now been thrown out of college which was the only thing she had in her life that kept her calm.
There are some bits of the story that puzzle me, however. When (and where) did people in the chat group assault your daughter? How did it escalate from posting a meme to being the target of a hate campaign? And how did asking for help from staff lead to her being expelled from college?
She was in photography and the group pushed her around in the dark room when in a lesson. They also all started to abuse her on the chat groups but deleted stuff as soon as read it was seen by two others but they were ignored and they said there was no evidence of her being bullied and if she was it was her own fault for posting a meme that she did without thinking as this is how she is. And the girl involved thinks she is a big istagram star and has thousands of followers which she turned on my daughter because she said saying sorry and deleting the meme was not enough and she was going to make her suffer.
Thank you Tassimo i have saved the links to show her when she comes back from her mums,
James, find another photography training course. You're doing everything you can and she has been let down by the system. But, there are other places out there. https://www.udemy.com/topic/photography/free/https://www.theschoolofphotography.com/online-photography-courses
She did Muay Thai as i did teach her and she had training at a fight club. We did it to help with her anger issues and to help control it before she would have just attacked them but now she can control the thoughts of violence. But now she has lost all interest in everything. When she was younger she was angry all the time and any simple thing would set off her rage she would smash things and you could not calm her very easy. But all the training and finding the photography changed everything , But now it is all slipping back to how she was as she feels she has had everything taken from her.
☕Tassimo ☕ said:some martial arts training?
I did something like that, I added 5 stones to my weight and not in fat, I was 8 stones when I was 18 years old, easily pushed around, literaly
This is truly shocking, James, but not surprising. You have my sympathy. Our entire culture, sadly, is built on bullying. As I said, it pervades every aspect of our society, and every walk of life. Until humans learn to love themselves, they will continue to project their self-loathing outwards to anyone they perceive as weaker. I do recommend martial arts. Learning how to defend and attack can sometimes be enough to remove you from the lists of many bullies. Perhaps moving forward, your daughter might benefit from some martial arts training? It has many health benefits too.