Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi there, I'm new to this forum and my counsellor advised me about this webpage. I'm a single mother to two children, my son Luke is 9 and undergoing diagnosis of ASD following 8 school exclusions and is now regularly seeing specialist for his pending diagnosis. I have known since he was a baby that he was different however it has taken this long for professionals to listen, I work full time as a health visitor however I am currently on the sick whilst assessments are ongoing as I could not do my job. I am hoping for some support from other parents as I have become very depressed and anxious about this situation and am trying to reach out to others that feel the same. I am currently on medication and started counselling which is going well but I want to cry all of the time and have minimal energy when it comes to the kids and day to day things. Has anyone else felt this way and is there an end to feeling this way, I know it's impacting on my kids but don't know how to feel better. Please help, any advice is welcomed xx
Depression does this to people. They get out of bed in the morning feeling tired. Days drag. Motivation and Energy are both very Low. This has to be changed. My advice. Sit your and think "What makes me feel really happy / Good?" . No holds barred and you don't have to tell anyone but you what it is. Then sit down and plan how you are going to successfully do whatever it is that makes you happy. I will share with you mine [although I don't have to] I have a passion for powerful motorcycles. I am ecstatically happy [big big big grin] when on one, doing a straight Roman road, a nice dry sunny day, at about 100 mph or so. So I put all my energies into achieving this goal. I have a license, no bike, no money, no insurance so a few things to overcome.
The thing is planning a really wonderful activity like this WILL get your mojo back and you start to feel better about yourself, everyone around you, life in general. I also suggest sitting and thinking that you have a box. In that box are all the things that are great about your life. Sit, meditate, take each of these wonderful items out of the box and place it in your mind on the floor next to the box. When the box is empty, very carefully pick up each item, in mind wrap it in gold foil and having given thanks for it replace it very carefully in the box. Do this every day.
Whilst you are doing the above book an appointment with your GP go and pour your heart out about how you feel. This is very scary. I took my daughter with me, she works in mental health and knows how these things pan out. I felt very much better knowing We Were doing something about my problem. Once a week I did a CBT session on my computer and again talking to my therapist every week was a great help. In about 8 weeks I was signed off and restored to my old self. Well almost, to be honest it takes about twice that time BUT I could cope after 8 weeks and well on the mend.
i hope this helps in some way, I don't know you so it is dificult to advise but if I tell you my story you might be suitably encouraged in fighting your own battle, and winning is very good.
Cheers Buddy
Hi Palbus, thanks for that and when I am starting to feel more motivated I will give this a go as when my counselling is finished I am having a break and then beginning 12 weeks CBT which I am presuming will involve something similar.