Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello all,
I'm a 38 year old woman who would like to connect with other people who have ASD partners. My OH was diagnosed last week. Our relationship has been very strained for at least 18 months (we've been together 7 years) and I'm taking anti depressants. I find it difficult to cope with the stress of being the sole breadwinner/carer. I'm on the brink of moving out and could really do with some support or helpful advice. I'd like to try living separately but still be in a relationship. Has anyone here had similar experiences they could share with me?
Thanks x
Well Ive done 27 years , but last 7 years have been with him in his own place, so separate but still kind of together, needed my space and to be able to breathe, only just realised now what ive lived through and have PTSD from the 5 kids and husband , nervous breakdown and all the weight of living as sole everything ...
Hi Turtle, I've recently discovered the teachings of Richard Grannon - the Spartan Life Coach. He's all about Complex PTSD. I'd also recommend reading 'From Surviving to Thriving - CPTSD' by Pete Walker. Very helpful straight forward advice. I hope you manage to work through your PTSD - it's a horrible thing.
Thank you ! I will start learning, this is literally all new, I hope I find a way...
Even though I've suspected my OH to be on the spectrum for a while, I'm still pretty new to this too. Look up the Spartan Life Coach on YouTube- he has so many great videos and although a lot of his videos are about being in a relationship with a narcissist, he very clearly explains the symptoms of Compex PTSD and how you can take back ownership of your thoughts and feelings. I'm honestly so happy to find out that I can fix how I feel. My goal is to become self soothing, i.e. able to comfort myself through positive thought process rather than having to rely on someone else...or a big cake! I wish you luck :-)