Published on 12, July, 2020
Son now has social worker as considered 'at risk.' from my daughter. Social worker thinks possible ASD. My daughter Marie is very controlling and violent most days. But she's perfect in school. Is the social worker then barking up the wrong tree???
Thank you so much. The home school behaviout disconnect is
Exact.
disapline - i do massive praise wheb she does anything good. but tell her that a particular behaviour is hurtful / unfair twice then ignore. if she does it again she''s given a warning, after that if it happens again she will not be allowed to go to an upcoming treat or outing.
Hi, thanks for your reply. I am the only adualt in our family and my son is nearly 12. Otherwise yes if her brother was a baby then jelousy would make sense.
Hi Isabella789,
Welcome to the Community. I've provided some links below which may be of use to you and your family.
This first link provides some general information about autism: http://www.autism.org.uk/about-autism/autism-and-asperger-syndrome-an-introduction/what-is-autism.aspx while this link provides advice for parents, relatives and carers of people with autism: http://www.autism.org.uk/living-with-autism/parents-relatives-and-carers.aspx .
In terms of behaviour and strategies, this link may be of use: http://www.autism.org.uk/living-with-autism/understanding-behaviour.aspx .
You may also want to seek professional support regarding the behaviour. You can search for professionals in your area on the Autism Services Directory: www.autism.org.uk/directory.aspx .
If you'd like to receive advice and information about community care issues, including finding out what help you can get from your local social services department; how to access the help; and how to make a complaint to your social services department if you are not happy with their decisions or the services they offer, then it may be worth contacting our Community Care Service: http://www.autism.org.uk/services/helplines/community-care.aspx .
You may also want to search for services in your area that cater for people with an autism spectrum disorder on our Autism Services Directory: www.autism.org.uk/directory.aspx .
Finally, if you'd like further support or advice, then it may be worth contacting our Autism Helpline on 0808 800 4104 (Monday to Thursday 10am to 4pm, Friday 9am to 3pm).
Best wishes,
Nellie-Mod
Girls work hard to look normal in their peer group and wear themselves out, making them more prone to anger and distress at home where they are safe.
You don't say how old your son is or who else is in your household. If he is very small she may be feeling she gets less care and attention hence the acting out.
How do you manage discipline when she is like this?