Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello, brand new here this morning :)
I'm a 34year old full time mum of 6 gorgeous kids, dd1 16, ds1 13 hf asd, ds2 7, dd2 4, dd3 2 and dd4 9months.
Dd1 & ds2 are full time school, dd's 2 & 3 are part time with 2 half days a fortnight at a childminders, ds1 and dd4 are home full time. Ds1 is HE due to (sn) school failing him! He's been HE now since Oct '14, we've been totally laid back up till now just mouching around, occasional trips, cooking at home, talking, loads of you tube vids etc oh and plenty of xbox haha.
I suffer with severe depression (questioning BPD) and on medication, I'm very held back/shy as I've never fitted in throught my life so I find new situations terribly hard to deal with so this obv doesn't help ds1 much.
I am married to a wonderful guy who I can not fault for the crap he takes from myself and ds1, but apart from him I have no support. My father passed away from cancer 4 years ago this July and I disowned my "mother" after years of verbal abuse and the occasional physical assault and haven't seen her for almost 9 years and certainly don't plan to any time soon either, all my grandparents have passed as well and so called friends don't bother with me, in fact just last week 1 caught dh at beavers and asked how I was as she hadn't seen me and I have left fb, bare in mind she walks past my house 4 times a day on school runs etc has my mobile number etc. So it basically is me and dh with the 6 kids (dh's dad died 2yr ago whilst his mum and brother (also asd) live an hour away so not much help).
Anyway that's me and mine please say hi I won't bite and I hope to get to know some of you x
Hello and Welcome,
In your aloneness, you are most definately not alone. Their are many of us out their with the same issues of having to manage with no support, however, this forum is a great asset and good sounding board when things become a little too much or you just need to chat to someone who understands.
Re BPD, Did you happen to see the channel 4 program last week? Some extreme examples, but interesting to see the overlap with ASD in some instances.
www.channel4.com/.../being-bipolar
What you describe about not feeling as though you 'fit in' sounds as though it has elements of ASD in it. Have you looked into it?
I've just read a book about one aspie females experiences and her presentation. Very interesting.
www.amazon.com/.../ref=as_li_tl
I'm an Aspie female, mother of four, formerly diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety disorder, but have since received a diagnosis of ASD. Two of my children are on the spectrum and were diagnosed years ago, but it all makes much more sense to me now.
I hope you find some useful tips here.
Take care
Coogy