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Advice needed for meltdowns please!!!

racytrace72
over 9 years ago

Hi, I am new to the site and am looking for any advice on how to deal with my 11 year old son's meltdowns!

At the end of last year we had an Ed Psych assessment which showed that he has a high liklihood of Aspergers and a severe Seperation Anxiety Disorder.  I have many problems getting him into school some days as using the school toilets is a massive issue for him along with the bus journey, changing from lesson to lesson, time in the playground with friends, using the school canteen, everything generally!

At home, he has many meltdowns and just today has begun to be very physical with me, pushing me and hitting me too.  Today he was damaging my radiator with a toy car and when I took the car away he became violent. 

He has been referred to CAMHS and they met on Monday this week to decide if they are going to take him on or not.  I am at the end of my tether.  I try to stay really calm and leave him to 'play out' the meltdown as interaction seems to aggravate him, but today nothing worked.  He didnt want to do anything with me, didnt want me even in the same room as him, then when I went off to do something else, that wasnt right either!  How do other people manage it?

He can also be very aggravating to his younger brother who is 8 and also seems to have the same 'symptoms' and to be honest it is hard work trying to keep them tolerating each other as one comment from one sets the other one off!!!

Does anyone have any suggestions that may help please?

Thanks

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  • over 9 years ago

    recombinantsocks said:

    but outraged, how would you stop the child damaging things? 

    with reasonable discourse, tougher stuff, and softer toys; and should something break well I see that as a small price to pay to avoid practicing violence against a small child.

    I recently was in a situation at a friends house where my friends son (4, with LFA) ran thro a crowded room waving a modeling scalpel. There were other children present. I took the knife from his hand, and recieved an injury requiring 13 stitches, but the most distressing thing for me was the look of shock and betrayal on little mans face. He ran to his room and cried under his bed for an hour and fell asleep there. Dont use force in any situation that doesnt threaten imminant injury.

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  • over 9 years ago

    recombinantsocks said:

    but outraged, how would you stop the child damaging things? 

    with reasonable discourse, tougher stuff, and softer toys; and should something break well I see that as a small price to pay to avoid practicing violence against a small child.

    I recently was in a situation at a friends house where my friends son (4, with LFA) ran thro a crowded room waving a modeling scalpel. There were other children present. I took the knife from his hand, and recieved an injury requiring 13 stitches, but the most distressing thing for me was the look of shock and betrayal on little mans face. He ran to his room and cried under his bed for an hour and fell asleep there. Dont use force in any situation that doesnt threaten imminant injury.

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