Published on 12, July, 2020
So my name is Charlie, Im from the UK near London and I am keen to speak with others who are in similar situations as me (because so called "normal" people dont have a clue about what its like day to day with Autism or Aspergers'!!) and because I can hopefully help others who are struggling in their lives or need support as well as getting help and advice from people on this forum, which might I add have struck me as highly intellegent individuals! I have thoroughly enjoyed browsing peoples comments on this site and reading about peoples experiences in life, its frustrating to hear certain people actually target people with AS which I read about today, but together we are stronger, thats how I have found that so called "normal" people operate, they speak always about whats bothering them or even making them happy.
So I thought I would sign up for an account on here and introduce myself because I have found this website extremely beneficial while browsing through it the past few days when I have been feeling frustrated in my own life and I believe that if people who has Autism and Aspergers' can speak to each other, help and relate to one and other on a site forum such as this one then that is an amazing thing. I myself know that a lot of so called "normal" people are inconsiderate of people with AS and I believe the best way to get them back is to form a community of AS people and say "were not alone!" because a lot of the time people with it are alone or dont have many friends and this leads to bullying and being singled out.
I thought I would just mention quickly incase anyone was wondering, I myself have Aspergers' and I have difficulty socialising and keeping up friendships, I will meet someone new and want them as a friend but lack the skills to go about having them as a friend and its really frustrating! I am fortunate enough that I am able to be on the end of the scale that others have mentioned which is the 'normal but a bit weird' end! everywhere I go I feel people look at me funny! I dont wear bright coloured clothing or go weeks without shaving or anything like that I just stand out possibly because I behave different to others without realising. I am mostly a very logical and serious person and I dont smile a lot, yet inside I feel like a fun and caring person, but I suppose because of the way I am I dont come across the way I really am!
Anyway before I bore you I will end what was ment to be just an introduction here!But I am very glad to have found this website and as soon as I can get a job I will be donating to this website because it is gold!!!
Hi Laddo,Sorry for the late reply I have been super busy!So you said in your last comment that you havent finished discovering who you are, to be honest I think most people havent, people change throughout their lives due to circumstance, experiences and age. How do we find out who we are?!
You said thoughtful people are hard to find, but luckily this site is here!! I would have thought everyone on this forum is thoughtful and kind, it would be nice if people on this site could become friends, but personally I find this site difficult to socialise with, but it is excellent for sharing stories and experiences.
About the dating sites, I agree with you that they are an excellent way for meeting someone because you can specify who you seek and so can women! It also allows people to feel comfortable speaking with each other without pressure and surroundings causing anxiety!! Have you tried any dating sites? Let me know if you have any luck and / or find someone, that would be excellent news.
Rumours that you are gay? Is it just an insult to try and belittle you or do they actually think you are? I think people who accuse are trying to cover up their secrecy!!! Perhaps they are gay and in the closet!! People who havent grown up yet are the ones who behave like that I wouldnt worry what immature people say if I was you. I think they are just trying to show off and impress each other.About thoughts, I think everyone thinks of life in general like every day things but I have found I think about the unknown a lot, about if's how's and why's and I wouldnt recommend to anyone else to think so much but its mainly science and life big questions I ponder over, do you think of these things or just think a lot about work and relationships? Also would you say your thinking leads to worry?
With the ADHD, do you feel you have became more in control of it since being older? How old are you by the way?Charlie