Published on 12, July, 2020
So my name is Charlie, Im from the UK near London and I am keen to speak with others who are in similar situations as me (because so called "normal" people dont have a clue about what its like day to day with Autism or Aspergers'!!) and because I can hopefully help others who are struggling in their lives or need support as well as getting help and advice from people on this forum, which might I add have struck me as highly intellegent individuals! I have thoroughly enjoyed browsing peoples comments on this site and reading about peoples experiences in life, its frustrating to hear certain people actually target people with AS which I read about today, but together we are stronger, thats how I have found that so called "normal" people operate, they speak always about whats bothering them or even making them happy.
So I thought I would sign up for an account on here and introduce myself because I have found this website extremely beneficial while browsing through it the past few days when I have been feeling frustrated in my own life and I believe that if people who has Autism and Aspergers' can speak to each other, help and relate to one and other on a site forum such as this one then that is an amazing thing. I myself know that a lot of so called "normal" people are inconsiderate of people with AS and I believe the best way to get them back is to form a community of AS people and say "were not alone!" because a lot of the time people with it are alone or dont have many friends and this leads to bullying and being singled out.
I thought I would just mention quickly incase anyone was wondering, I myself have Aspergers' and I have difficulty socialising and keeping up friendships, I will meet someone new and want them as a friend but lack the skills to go about having them as a friend and its really frustrating! I am fortunate enough that I am able to be on the end of the scale that others have mentioned which is the 'normal but a bit weird' end! everywhere I go I feel people look at me funny! I dont wear bright coloured clothing or go weeks without shaving or anything like that I just stand out possibly because I behave different to others without realising. I am mostly a very logical and serious person and I dont smile a lot, yet inside I feel like a fun and caring person, but I suppose because of the way I am I dont come across the way I really am!
Anyway before I bore you I will end what was ment to be just an introduction here!But I am very glad to have found this website and as soon as I can get a job I will be donating to this website because it is gold!!!
Hi Laddo, I get what you mean not understanding it because I didnt understand either most of my childhood and only recently have started understanding, also I used to feel ashamed as a child and I would deny having it and get angry when I was told I have it.Yeah managers are usually hungry for power status anyway so they tell everyone how they should be and pick on things they dont like, usually bluntly in my experience.Interviews are also difficult because of this because the interviewer is expecting you to be bubbly and talkative, do you get asked if nervous in interviews or is it just me? even when you feel perfectly normal!!
Also its true people who are different in the slightest way are sometimes singled out and called weird etc. People like to gossip too and make things up if they dont know you, once people say something about you to someone else its like the thing they said sticks and people dont give you a chance and see what your like they just listen to the rumours. Even as an adult not just in school!!!!I cant believe you done the same as me in school!! I also behaved like that, behaved a way that made me fit in!! I had friends in school but like you said I modified my behaviour and wasnt really able to be myself because I knew I wouldnt be accepted.Most of my friends had ADHD, all I know about it is that it makes people do things quicker and think quicker, I met someone in school that had ADHD and Autism and he seemed normal to be honest. It is true, we are under the same umbrella and all understand each other. The best thing is that everyone on here wants support and acceptance and came here for support, and when people want support they rarely are nasty people, so we all know that we can pretty much trust each other on this site because we share a common struggle.If we were a football team (I dont like football!!!) we would be AS United !!!!!!!!!!!