Published on 12, July, 2020
So my name is Charlie, Im from the UK near London and I am keen to speak with others who are in similar situations as me (because so called "normal" people dont have a clue about what its like day to day with Autism or Aspergers'!!) and because I can hopefully help others who are struggling in their lives or need support as well as getting help and advice from people on this forum, which might I add have struck me as highly intellegent individuals! I have thoroughly enjoyed browsing peoples comments on this site and reading about peoples experiences in life, its frustrating to hear certain people actually target people with AS which I read about today, but together we are stronger, thats how I have found that so called "normal" people operate, they speak always about whats bothering them or even making them happy.
So I thought I would sign up for an account on here and introduce myself because I have found this website extremely beneficial while browsing through it the past few days when I have been feeling frustrated in my own life and I believe that if people who has Autism and Aspergers' can speak to each other, help and relate to one and other on a site forum such as this one then that is an amazing thing. I myself know that a lot of so called "normal" people are inconsiderate of people with AS and I believe the best way to get them back is to form a community of AS people and say "were not alone!" because a lot of the time people with it are alone or dont have many friends and this leads to bullying and being singled out.
I thought I would just mention quickly incase anyone was wondering, I myself have Aspergers' and I have difficulty socialising and keeping up friendships, I will meet someone new and want them as a friend but lack the skills to go about having them as a friend and its really frustrating! I am fortunate enough that I am able to be on the end of the scale that others have mentioned which is the 'normal but a bit weird' end! everywhere I go I feel people look at me funny! I dont wear bright coloured clothing or go weeks without shaving or anything like that I just stand out possibly because I behave different to others without realising. I am mostly a very logical and serious person and I dont smile a lot, yet inside I feel like a fun and caring person, but I suppose because of the way I am I dont come across the way I really am!
Anyway before I bore you I will end what was ment to be just an introduction here!But I am very glad to have found this website and as soon as I can get a job I will be donating to this website because it is gold!!!
Hey its nice to meet you Laddo! Virtually of coarse! in response to your reply.. yeah like people out and about seem to look at me like they have seen something interesting! One of my previous jobs I had (am not working now :( ! ) the manager told me I should try to smile and stuff and that I look very straight faced, and I felt horrible about myself but I just explained to him I cant help it and dont mean to do it, if I smile for no reason I feel like a crazy person!!! Thats silly isnt it people telling you that you should just be more social, if only they knew what its like to have Aspergers', its like telling someone in a wheelchair to get up and walk, the only exception is that they can never walk but luckily us people with AS can learn to socialise! Im not sure about you but sometimes I see the way people speak when they are in groups or just two people chatting, and its sometimes like they are characters in a film! The way people sort of act like they never stop talking or trying to appeal to what seems like an invisible audience!!!!Unfortunately others cant see or feel what its like because they dont have what we have, but they dont need to know what its like I think they just need to accept that we are different to them and that we deserve to be respected and accepted!!!!!!!Im glad to hear you are looking for friendship and so am I, I find it very difficult to make friends out in the big wide world, but to be honest when people can relate to a struggle or difficulty in their lives I think it brings people together.It is very difficult in this world to make true friends, I think most people who have 'true' friends that they can trust and rely on and be theirself around, most of them met in school. Personally I hated school!!! The lessons were difficult because of poor teaching and other students talking non-stop and not listening when told to quiet down and work; Also it was very difficult for me to relate to the other kids and 'fit in' because I just couldnt!!! How was school for you?
By the way I am very pleased to hear you would like to set up some forums and I would like be kept updated on that and good for you that you thought of doing that it may help out a lot of people of all ages who are experiencing difficulty due to AS.