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How to Make Friends and Get Back Out There

チラチラ
2 months ago

Hi everyone.

I'm new here and not sure how to navigate just yet. I have no experience using forums, but thought since I'm having such a terrible time connecting with people IRL, there is quite literally nothing to lose.

My name is Hallow, I'm 29 years old and a non-binary bean - they/she (please ask my pronouns). I'm  into all things animated. Cartoons, anime, animated films, etc. I'm generally a creative person and enjoy just about any hobby or activity that involves creating: drawing (digital and traditional), painting, jewellery making, baking & cooking, etc.

Since my self- diagnosis just over a year ago,  my life kinda fell apart and I've been on the journey of seeking diagnosis for my Autism & ADHD, while managing my comorbidities. I lost all my "friends" and family and became very isolated (mostly for my own safely), and ended up moving to a whole new city by myself. 

I find that my experience has made me so much more reluctant to put myelf out there in the way that I used to. I also know that the way I approach things like human interactions is vastly different now.

Soo, I want to try something new. I've heard so many people say how they've made some great friends online on Reddit or Tumblr or some other site I've always felt too intimidated to use. Well, if there's anywhere that I can be my full Autistic self and not feel 'wrong' or 'other' it's NAS, right?

Like I said, there's quite literally nothing to lose, but hopefully I'll gain some meaningful interactions,

dare I say.... even friends? EyesJoy

Has anyone got any tips for coming out of isolation in your late 20s/30s?

Or any age?

Or just want to say "Hi"?

I hope to chat with you all Blue heartPurple heartGreen heart

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  • 2 months ago

    I do find it more difficult to connect with people as I get older because many of my interests are things I like to do alone.  I was glad to read your post as I have a friend who I rarely see because they have so many different interests and friends plus a partner so little time for much else.  I know how fed up I get when I'm trying to complete a creative endeavour and I get interrupted but I also feel hurt when I'm not a priority in a friends life because they'd rather do something else or be with someone else.  Relationships are hard work but my friend and I work through it because I give them space and they understand how I feel because their other friends think the same of them - that they're not the best at keeping in touch.  They suspect they have ADHD and so find it difficult to organise their time to get everything done.

    I do hope everyone on here who wants to make friends is able to do so and finds solace in it. :-) 

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  • 2 months ago

    I do find it more difficult to connect with people as I get older because many of my interests are things I like to do alone.  I was glad to read your post as I have a friend who I rarely see because they have so many different interests and friends plus a partner so little time for much else.  I know how fed up I get when I'm trying to complete a creative endeavour and I get interrupted but I also feel hurt when I'm not a priority in a friends life because they'd rather do something else or be with someone else.  Relationships are hard work but my friend and I work through it because I give them space and they understand how I feel because their other friends think the same of them - that they're not the best at keeping in touch.  They suspect they have ADHD and so find it difficult to organise their time to get everything done.

    I do hope everyone on here who wants to make friends is able to do so and finds solace in it. :-) 

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