Struggling to live normal life with autism

Lately I’ve been feeling extremely down about my life,I don’t do much I just stay at home everyday and I wanted to make a change to better myself. I knew I probably wasn’t gonna manage it but I forced myself because it feels so sad not being able to do the things other people my age can do, I want to work I want to have friends but I can’t hold anything for long and I’m struggling to cope with entering adult hood with my autism. I feel so useless and like I can’t do anything so I back out of these job offers and opportunities because I end up having meltdowns and shutdown I’m really lost on what to do I can’t continue like this but I don’t know how to get the right support to help me live a normal life.

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  • I’m really lost on what to do I can’t continue like this

    It will help to stop thinking of the life you are trying to lead as being "normal".

    It is a way of life for people who have differently wired brains to you, so trying to match this is probably like trying to compete in a formula 1 race using a family hatchback.

    You can find a career still but it needs to mould itself to your needs and ideally wants so a carefully considered approach is needed.

    I would start by drawing up a list of the things you don't like to do (because they cause too much anxiety) and those you do like - then start to consider what careers could offer mosly the thinks in the "like" column with least in the "don't like" column.

    I drew up a list of possible careers that work for autists - some won't be for you but some might so see if anything stirrs and interest:

    administrative assistant
    analyst
    bus driver
    chemist
    claims processor
    college professor
    computer programmer
    consultant
    creative writer
    customer service representative
    data entry clerk
    editor
    electrician
    engineer
    fine artist
    geographic information system (GIS) technician
    graphic artist
    grocery bagger
    laboratory technician
    lawyer
    librarian
    meteorologist
    nurse
    paralegal
    personal assistant
    physician
    physicist
    political canvasser
    production manager
    records manager
    reporter
    retail sales associate
    sales manager
    screenwriter
    sound technician
    supply chain manager
    teacher (adult education)
    teacher (early childhood)
    technical documentation writer
    veterinarian
    warehouse worker
    web developer.

    It is an eclectic mix but will some entries will appeal to special interests.

    From this we can try to come up with suggestions in how to get into the field of interest.

    It will be a slow start but that gives time to find something you really feels gels with your autism.

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  • I’m really lost on what to do I can’t continue like this

    It will help to stop thinking of the life you are trying to lead as being "normal".

    It is a way of life for people who have differently wired brains to you, so trying to match this is probably like trying to compete in a formula 1 race using a family hatchback.

    You can find a career still but it needs to mould itself to your needs and ideally wants so a carefully considered approach is needed.

    I would start by drawing up a list of the things you don't like to do (because they cause too much anxiety) and those you do like - then start to consider what careers could offer mosly the thinks in the "like" column with least in the "don't like" column.

    I drew up a list of possible careers that work for autists - some won't be for you but some might so see if anything stirrs and interest:

    administrative assistant
    analyst
    bus driver
    chemist
    claims processor
    college professor
    computer programmer
    consultant
    creative writer
    customer service representative
    data entry clerk
    editor
    electrician
    engineer
    fine artist
    geographic information system (GIS) technician
    graphic artist
    grocery bagger
    laboratory technician
    lawyer
    librarian
    meteorologist
    nurse
    paralegal
    personal assistant
    physician
    physicist
    political canvasser
    production manager
    records manager
    reporter
    retail sales associate
    sales manager
    screenwriter
    sound technician
    supply chain manager
    teacher (adult education)
    teacher (early childhood)
    technical documentation writer
    veterinarian
    warehouse worker
    web developer.

    It is an eclectic mix but will some entries will appeal to special interests.

    From this we can try to come up with suggestions in how to get into the field of interest.

    It will be a slow start but that gives time to find something you really feels gels with your autism.

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