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NAS91380
8 months ago

Hi

My name is Barry and I have difficulties with social situations and a couple of other issues but there is no help that I am aware of in my locality.

I am 67, married for 45 years, and retired after working in finance in the civil service. As a child I only had a maximum of one friend at a time, while my siblings were gregarious and had no difficulties. After getting married at 20 yrs, my wife has been my sole friend and soul mate. We have two adult sons. At work I was able to satisfy all my socialising needs but was not able to take work relationships outside of the workplace and I avoided work socials where the easily understood rules of the workplace were relaxed. Since retiring I have been isolated apart from with my wife. It is not that I don't like people, quite the opposite, but I don't seem to be able to connect beyond pleasantries. 

I tend to focus on interests, spending a lot of time researching in the area of my current favourite, looking around at other things but coming back to a favoured few.

I have had a reasonably successful career and happy life in most ways and do not consider myself to be strange or unusual. I completed an OU degree last year, graduating with first class honours.

Sorry for this download but at times I get quite desparate to figure out why my life experience is as it is. Does my situation make any sense to anyone?

Barry

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  • 8 months ago

    Did you find that after work you needed to relax and recharge? I found in school I would do all I could to avoid doing homework because I had to "Switch off" from thoughts of school as school brought me stress. So homework was a last minute rush! 

    It was explained to me on another site that introverted people need their recharge times by relaxing either alone or just with immediate family after coming home from school, college or work. 

    Extroverts need to be around people to relax and de-stress. They go to pubs and clubs to unwind. For an introvert, that would push them into burnout or even breakdown!  

    Not one is less thwn the other. Just relaxes and de-stresses in different ways! All are valued. All are great!

    Hope this helps explain things?

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  • 8 months ago

    Did you find that after work you needed to relax and recharge? I found in school I would do all I could to avoid doing homework because I had to "Switch off" from thoughts of school as school brought me stress. So homework was a last minute rush! 

    It was explained to me on another site that introverted people need their recharge times by relaxing either alone or just with immediate family after coming home from school, college or work. 

    Extroverts need to be around people to relax and de-stress. They go to pubs and clubs to unwind. For an introvert, that would push them into burnout or even breakdown!  

    Not one is less thwn the other. Just relaxes and de-stresses in different ways! All are valued. All are great!

    Hope this helps explain things?

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