Recently diagnosed, completely lacking social interactions

Hi,

I am Mark (preferred name not real) and I am 23. I was diagnosed with ASD couple of months ago. Don't know how to react to it.

No matter how badly I want, I can't keep friends or be in a relationship. I don't know what I am doing wrong. 

I like watching films, mostly horror and action. I like listening to music, Led Zeppelin, The Beatles, Madonna, ABBA, etc.

I was told this is a great place to connect with people.

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  • Hi(Ciao).
    I don't know what to advise you now.
     
    * Go step by step, remember: a diagnosis reveals who you are.
    
    Above all, it reveals to you that "You are not a very strange person!"
    
    I have my own personality.
    
    I always try to try to understand as much as possible of what surrounds me.
    
    I also realized that it's ok to tell people you trust.
    
    But they may never really understand him as we are.
    
    Among other things, it is tiring to have said it and to receive after 4 years illogical answers of ... if you want, you can ".
    
    I will be able to as far as I can and I will not be able to in many other things related to social interaction.
    
    Yes: I can perhaps give you some advice.
    
    Don't overload yourself with stress in too intense social interactions.
    I also mean the normal ones with the family, even the ones with only one person, maybe the one you love the most.
    
    Another thing is to avoid replying to those who say things that do not seem valid to you.
    
    He still won't understand you, and you'll just get tired.
    
    
    * You didn't write it, the claim that they consider it an autism spectrum disorder is true.
    
    It is from IC and DSM, i.e. from diagnostic manuals.
    
    However, I have a question...
    
    If it's a disorder, how is it treated?
    
    Do you become neurotypical according to them?
    
    Because the ratio is more or less this:
    Normal = Neurotypical. Disorder = neurodiversity.
    
    But it's not quite like that.
    
    We are only less than them in percentage terms, we are very few.
    
    Is being very few therefore a disorder?
    
    Ok: there are things that go hand in hand with autism, but they are also present among the neurotypicals, those are cured.
    
    I find it not logical that they write disturbance.
    
    It would be like telling a person neurologically different from them that they should be treated.
    
    The word cure has a beautiful meaning, of course.
    
    But if anything, I have to understand as many things as possible, but I don't have a problem for who I am.
    
    * They do not distinguish between the verb to be and the verb to have in my opinion.
    
    (I hope I wrote something legible enough, if so I apologize)

    I like music too.
    
    Sometimes I'm synesthetic so I perceive it in ways that are different from the ordinary.
    
    Or a song comes to mind in this case an entire show the live one in Denmark by Led Zeppelin.
    
    Actually every sentence reminds me of something.
    
    Which then reminds me of several others.
    
    I don't know, it seems to me to describe the technique of Dylan Thomas.
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  • Hi(Ciao).
    I don't know what to advise you now.
     
    * Go step by step, remember: a diagnosis reveals who you are.
    
    Above all, it reveals to you that "You are not a very strange person!"
    
    I have my own personality.
    
    I always try to try to understand as much as possible of what surrounds me.
    
    I also realized that it's ok to tell people you trust.
    
    But they may never really understand him as we are.
    
    Among other things, it is tiring to have said it and to receive after 4 years illogical answers of ... if you want, you can ".
    
    I will be able to as far as I can and I will not be able to in many other things related to social interaction.
    
    Yes: I can perhaps give you some advice.
    
    Don't overload yourself with stress in too intense social interactions.
    I also mean the normal ones with the family, even the ones with only one person, maybe the one you love the most.
    
    Another thing is to avoid replying to those who say things that do not seem valid to you.
    
    He still won't understand you, and you'll just get tired.
    
    
    * You didn't write it, the claim that they consider it an autism spectrum disorder is true.
    
    It is from IC and DSM, i.e. from diagnostic manuals.
    
    However, I have a question...
    
    If it's a disorder, how is it treated?
    
    Do you become neurotypical according to them?
    
    Because the ratio is more or less this:
    Normal = Neurotypical. Disorder = neurodiversity.
    
    But it's not quite like that.
    
    We are only less than them in percentage terms, we are very few.
    
    Is being very few therefore a disorder?
    
    Ok: there are things that go hand in hand with autism, but they are also present among the neurotypicals, those are cured.
    
    I find it not logical that they write disturbance.
    
    It would be like telling a person neurologically different from them that they should be treated.
    
    The word cure has a beautiful meaning, of course.
    
    But if anything, I have to understand as many things as possible, but I don't have a problem for who I am.
    
    * They do not distinguish between the verb to be and the verb to have in my opinion.
    
    (I hope I wrote something legible enough, if so I apologize)

    I like music too.
    
    Sometimes I'm synesthetic so I perceive it in ways that are different from the ordinary.
    
    Or a song comes to mind in this case an entire show the live one in Denmark by Led Zeppelin.
    
    Actually every sentence reminds me of something.
    
    Which then reminds me of several others.
    
    I don't know, it seems to me to describe the technique of Dylan Thomas.
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