Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello everyone,
I'm mid 40s chap, recently diagnosed with ASD, and just trying to let it all sink in. If anyone can ooint me in the right direction for some guidance on dealing with certain things? (On here or elsewhere)
I struggle with communication, and often become overwhelmed when responses to points or answers I make, don't seem to relate to what Ive said at all. Makes me feel Im going crazy.
I'm also very much struggling when things arent "right" or "fair", how things should be. Again, it becomes overwhelming - but often I'm unable to walk away or let it go because its a core feeling. Moreover, there is a large part inside, that even thiugh I cant seem to walk away, doesnt want to either! Ive identified something is not right, therefore is must be changed... Help!
I can relate, especially to feeling overwhelmed by injustice. The world has so much unfairness and as children we are just told to get used to it! I sign petitions, it's a very small thing but better than not bothering. Just because I can only do a tiny thing doesn't mean it isn't worth doing because if enough people sign the petition sometimes things change for the better. It can get a bit much when my inbox is too full, but I try to just do what I can. And I try to not use too much plastic or waste things.
If I wasn't a Christian though I think I might drown in despair. I know that God is more bothered by the injustice than I am and one day He will finish fixing it, but because He gave humans free will they will choose to abuse it and each other. I don't understand it because His thoughts are above mine and I would rather He stopped people before they did something horrible. But I trust Him that He knows better than me. I don't know if it is against policy to discuss faith, but this is how I best cope with the problem I share with you.
Another thing I think of when I desperately want to fix something I can't is this cartoon:
for some reason that helps me realise not only is it not possible for me to fix everything, it is bad for me and those around me for me to try! I have to pick my battles. Sometimes I will correct the person (if I think they will listen or if I really have to get it off my chest) usually I will let it pass.
Doing things by the book only gets us to a point.