Published on 12, July, 2020
HI all,
From my perspective, I have found that anger is the most challenging emotion to feel/express effectively and accept in others. I realise anger is an important emotion which is useful in many scenarios but my personal observation is that others sometimes use it to undermine/attack/bully others. This for me is when it becomes unacceptable and traumatising. When I feel anger building in me and I know that I cannot stop it, I am terrified inside as it feels overwhelming for me. I am more comfortable with other emotions but am learning that it is okay to be angry as long as you remain respectful and if you can't you escape the situation or warn the other person the level of anger you are feeling so you can talk later when calmer. I'd like to know of other strategies people use to allow anger to happen and be okay with it. I rarely express anger towards others because it's so built up from years of repression that I would be scared of how it would manifest. I am so used to pushing it down that I now no longer feel it even if another person is fully expressing it right in my face. I tend to disassociate and feel sad about whatever it is that got them to that point of hurt. I see anger as the protective barrier for hurt and trauma.
Thanks for reading, I look forward to gaining more insight into this emotion.
I tend to let anger out in private (verbally) although I feel like I feel it all day as a self defence assist.
I tend to let anger out in private (verbally) although I feel like I feel it all day as a self defence assist
Thanks for sharing P. I sometimes let my anger out physically in another room - punching pillows or screaming into them when other people are not around so they can't hear me. I'd LOVE to go to a rage room as I feel that would benefit me because I am always to measured when it comes to anger. Much of my anger changes into tears quickly so I can get it out that way which is more comfortable to me than the initial stages of anger.
extreme injustices to others or the self
Me too and I don't understand why some people feel it is okay to to be abusive or a bully to another person. :-(
my anger changes into tears
Depending on the reason for my anger, extreme injustices to others or the self provoke me to tears in anger.