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I read the title and thought; "Just buy a mirror, or if you are unsighted, ask a trustworthy friend".

Sadly it took me nearly a week to actually hit send, admittedly, such is the power of fear, when a simple word/chrominance pun, can be seen as something entirely differently to a population that has several years of race baiting shoved down our collective throats, disguised as "promoting unity". And why is proudly identifying as BAME considered O.K. but proudly identifyiing as white, and celebrating our achievements & good qualities makes you a card carrying member of the national socialist party? 

I've just watched Max Verstappen win, and cheered. I liked Lewis Hamilton much more than him as a driver, and was looking forwards to cheering Lewis on to a record breaking eighth championship, but he tried to turn into a politician/influencer, and there are more than enough of them already. Maybe next year he'll concentrate a bit more on his actual JOB and leave the social engineering to others? 

And having got the social conditioning thing off my chest, (I was triggered by the word BAME, which is a perniciously divisive construct at it's core) let us consider the real problem that Aurorathebwitch really faces. The medical profession.

We ALL get microaggressions from them! They have the hideous job of professing competence to oftimes frightened anc needy people, when deep down, they know that the training only goes so far, and the internet is now keeping them honest! They pay them a lot, but it is a hugely difficult and stressful job, and the vast majority of the doctros and nurses you meet, are trying as hard as any Autist to wear a very strong "mask". Throw in a wide diversity of competence, not helped by the fact that nowadays "competence at your work" is now held to be less desirable than quite a few other parameters when selecting employees, and so you do indeed face a lottery.   

For me when I go and see Dr Wasim, I don't even consider any of that cultural racial stuff, past the initial observation.

I just want his medical competence, and service. So I wouldn't even consider his "bameness" or my lack of it. I just see him as a bloke doing a job, where I know he has been meticulously trained to believe he knows more about my body and what will work for it than I do. (And it''s mostly going to be true, whether I like it or not, but they don't know everything and do make mistakes, so I keep my wits about me, and ask plenty of questions.)

I also know he is busy, and I'm overly talkative, so I do my best to keep "on point" and only speak when I really need to, or (having read a book about the mechanics of human interactions, I know how to do this sometimes) if I can say something that I know will make him enjoy the experience of treating me a bit more in some way I do that becuase it helps us both get where we need to be. 

The moment they moved beyond castigating race haters, (which should be done at every opportunity) and into legislating that we are all the same interchangeable units, when reality has taken such great pains to demonstrate otherwise, was the day we all lost the previous plot, and stopped being any sort of meritocracy where we used to apply our focus on competence rather than equailty of outcome. You will get the treatment you get, from the physician on the day, and it depends far less on what race or groupage you are in, than it does on how pleasant and co-operative you can be, multiplied by the mood and competence of your servant in this matter.  

Sometimes one can be right, at least from a narrowly literalistic point of view, but unkind. Try to be kind, rather than correct, if the choice is given..

What was unkind so we know what not to say for future please?

Thank you for explaining in a way I can understand. I now no what you said.  I would not have anything against a black person my best friends have been black 3 of them. Plus Sonya and Donna my nieces have a black father. My brother in law was black he is dead now, unfortunately but he was a lovely man. 

so I myself do not care what colour someones skin is or what nationality they are big or small fat or thin I don’t mind.  Because we are all individual people we are all special in our own way. That is what I believe myself.

None of what I have written here was directed at you. I have been saying that I Sperg was putting recording what he believed to be correct in his own mind, above being kind to another person.

Then I was saying that I felt I was not qualified to comment on the original question (not being female or from an ethnic minority) and so did not do so, and inferred that I thought that I Sperg was not either.

None of what I have written here was directed at you. I have been saying that I Sperg was putting recording what he believed to be correct in his own mind, above being kind to another person.

Then I was saying that I felt I was not qualified to comment on the original question (not being female or from an ethnic minority) and so did not do so, and inferred that I thought that I Sperg was not either.

Thank you for explaining in a way I can understand. I now no what you said.  I would not have anything against a black person my best friends have been black 3 of them. Plus Sonya and Donna my nieces have a black father. My brother in law was black he is dead now, unfortunately but he was a lovely man. 

so I myself do not care what colour someones skin is or what nationality they are big or small fat or thin I don’t mind.  Because we are all individual people we are all special in our own way. That is what I believe myself.