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I read the title and thought; "Just buy a mirror, or if you are unsighted, ask a trustworthy friend".

Sadly it took me nearly a week to actually hit send, admittedly, such is the power of fear, when a simple word/chrominance pun, can be seen as something entirely differently to a population that has several years of race baiting shoved down our collective throats, disguised as "promoting unity". And why is proudly identifying as BAME considered O.K. but proudly identifyiing as white, and celebrating our achievements & good qualities makes you a card carrying member of the national socialist party? 

I've just watched Max Verstappen win, and cheered. I liked Lewis Hamilton much more than him as a driver, and was looking forwards to cheering Lewis on to a record breaking eighth championship, but he tried to turn into a politician/influencer, and there are more than enough of them already. Maybe next year he'll concentrate a bit more on his actual JOB and leave the social engineering to others? 

And having got the social conditioning thing off my chest, (I was triggered by the word BAME, which is a perniciously divisive construct at it's core) let us consider the real problem that Aurorathebwitch really faces. The medical profession.

We ALL get microaggressions from them! They have the hideous job of professing competence to oftimes frightened anc needy people, when deep down, they know that the training only goes so far, and the internet is now keeping them honest! They pay them a lot, but it is a hugely difficult and stressful job, and the vast majority of the doctros and nurses you meet, are trying as hard as any Autist to wear a very strong "mask". Throw in a wide diversity of competence, not helped by the fact that nowadays "competence at your work" is now held to be less desirable than quite a few other parameters when selecting employees, and so you do indeed face a lottery.   

For me when I go and see Dr Wasim, I don't even consider any of that cultural racial stuff, past the initial observation.

I just want his medical competence, and service. So I wouldn't even consider his "bameness" or my lack of it. I just see him as a bloke doing a job, where I know he has been meticulously trained to believe he knows more about my body and what will work for it than I do. (And it''s mostly going to be true, whether I like it or not, but they don't know everything and do make mistakes, so I keep my wits about me, and ask plenty of questions.)

I also know he is busy, and I'm overly talkative, so I do my best to keep "on point" and only speak when I really need to, or (having read a book about the mechanics of human interactions, I know how to do this sometimes) if I can say something that I know will make him enjoy the experience of treating me a bit more in some way I do that becuase it helps us both get where we need to be. 

The moment they moved beyond castigating race haters, (which should be done at every opportunity) and into legislating that we are all the same interchangeable units, when reality has taken such great pains to demonstrate otherwise, was the day we all lost the previous plot, and stopped being any sort of meritocracy where we used to apply our focus on competence rather than equailty of outcome. You will get the treatment you get, from the physician on the day, and it depends far less on what race or groupage you are in, than it does on how pleasant and co-operative you can be, multiplied by the mood and competence of your servant in this matter.  

Sometimes one can be right, at least from a narrowly literalistic point of view, but unkind. Try to be kind, rather than correct, if the choice is given..

Sometimes one can be right, at least from a narrowly literalistic point of view, but unkind. Try to be kind, rather than correct, if the choice is given..

Thank you for explaining in a way I can understand. I now no what you said.  I would not have anything against a black person my best friends have been black 3 of them. Plus Sonya and Donna my nieces have a black father. My brother in law was black he is dead now, unfortunately but he was a lovely man. 

so I myself do not care what colour someones skin is or what nationality they are big or small fat or thin I don’t mind.  Because we are all individual people we are all special in our own way. That is what I believe myself.

None of what I have written here was directed at you. I have been saying that I Sperg was putting recording what he believed to be correct in his own mind, above being kind to another person.

Then I was saying that I felt I was not qualified to comment on the original question (not being female or from an ethnic minority) and so did not do so, and inferred that I thought that I Sperg was not either.

I don’t understand what you are saying don’t know what it means? I am lost. Sorry.

It doesn’t matter because there are many things I get confused with.

I am not very good with writing I am only learning how to put in full stops and commas. I don’t understand lots of things as I am learning how to write better. I am not educated, in writing. I may make lots of errors when I write. If I do I hope it doesn’t annoy anyone. Sorry if it does.

I saw the syntax error in the title, but ,as the underlying meaning was apparent, I decided that pointing it out would not be useful, merely unkind. As I only fitted one of three criteria required for a full appreciation of the problem, being autistic, but neither female nor of an ethnic minority background, I thought that my opinions on the matter were not germane, therefore I did not respond.

ME I'd be overall grateful, if they also tried to help me. Some people are different, they'd never get pass the first obstacle of someone daring to criticise their pronunciation and then refuse the help!.

And that for me is my final post in this thread.It isn;t a good place to be, it wass started with a hateful premise, and is just argument now.

You are not wring there Martin, sadly it is not possible for anyone else to make a judgement as the O/P removed her post then  made multiple and false "abuse" allegations against me, before leaving.. 

The oringinal post, being racist in nature, did not in my view warrant kindness, although I I did take the time to temper my "unkindness" with including the best techniques I know to achieve what she was asking for, which under the circumstances was, (even if you cannot see it as "kind") helpful and on point. 

I think that responding to a plea for advice and help with a critique of the syntax of the plea, then indulging in an extended socio-political excursion, before in effect dismissing the problem as fictitious, is not entirely kind.

Not really. If I was on holiday and was suddenly taken ill, and someone responded by correcting my pronunciation of "Help me!" in the local language, they would be both correct and unkind.

lol, people and there rasist's problems

I know that problem

as long as it is something I did 

not something they claim to be true by misinterpreting

correct is always kind though, for if you try to be kind and be incorrect or cover up the truth with kindness all you do is cause more harm and delusion in the world. so being truthful in the long run is always a act of kindness.

yeah i had 2 of my joke posts removed due to joking about the title and the way its worded in a light manner as it sounded like she is diagnosed as being a gender and a colour that both isnt allowed to be named or acknowledged or else your racist and sexist if you acknowledge the existance of either of them, this post will probably be removed too as your not allowed to speak to or about such subjects in this day and age lol they way she worded her title though is all on her, she cant blame others for that, it was bound to be brought up, she didnt say diagnosed as autistic but she said diagnosed as a colour and a gender lol thats pretty funny but i suppose she didnt see the funny of it. i too will be diagnosed as a colour gender too, i cant even say neither the colour nor gender because to say it is illegal, mad world that you cannot say them as if its illegal to acknowledge their existance which is rather opposite to what they want. congratulations they no longer exist as censorship has deemed them to be none existant, which is rather harmful to them as if one doesnt exist then one becomes like the uhigurs in china. their own censorship is doing what they claim others are doing, they do that to themselves.

well I've got an abuse flag, so it must have been my post...

Now to figure out who I was abusing, and how.

(It can't be a spam flag unless I've gone too far recommending a certain book...) 

And given that my response is to a thread that was so racially divisive in it's intent, (the very word "bame" means "everyone who isn't white") I was (apart from the pun and complaining about "bame") as helpful as I could be, having navigated the process myself and got speedy results. I gave her what she actually asked for!

Bah, humbug! Does anyone remember Christmas? And the basic idea of "Peace and Goodwill to all men"? Or the ideas of forgiveness and renewal that USED TO BE prevalent around this time of the year?

All those outdated ideas that are being snuffed out, and replaced with "awareness" or those other words and concepts being used to devalue & disrupt our lives....

I was being kind...  

What was unkind so we know what not to say for future please?