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NAS76596
over 2 years ago

Hi there

I am a the start of getting assessed for autism - having learned more and more about how women present I realise I fit the bill and am relieved to be honest. I have 3 sons - the youngest is autistic, non speaking, learning disabled, the other 2 have significant autistic traits but are not diagnosed. It answers so many questions for me, my not quite fitting in, not getting things quite right, speaking my mind and losing friends, masking, mimicking, using alcohol as a coping mechanism, feeling like a fake, obsessive interests, sensory issues, super sensitive hearing and smell - there are 1001 things! Has anyone else used drugs and alcohol ‘fit in’ or ‘cope’? 

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  • over 2 years ago

    Hi :) 

    Well done on getting an assessment, I was so relieved and a little surprised that I was accepted for an assessment! I almost feel that I've managed to hide my true self for so long that no one can take me seriously about thinking I'm autistic. Only I know what's going round in my head 24/7, others only see what I portray. 

    I've never really had 'proper' friends, not like others seem to have. I've always felt a bit of a loner really. I don't really know what to say to people most of the time, unless I feel comfortable with them, such as my work mates. I feel I am either very up or very down, and sometimes I feel I can't bring myself to talk to people, if I don't feel like engaging. 

    I used to use alcohol socially to fit in and give myself confidence to socialise. It really did not agree with me and I have had many many awful situations where I've gone off the rails while binge drinking. Now that I am more settled and have my own little family, I no longer go out drinking but have an awful coping mechanism of binge eating :( it's almost an obsession, even though I hate doing it.

    I hope you don't have to wait too long for your assessment :) 

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  • over 2 years ago

    Hi :) 

    Well done on getting an assessment, I was so relieved and a little surprised that I was accepted for an assessment! I almost feel that I've managed to hide my true self for so long that no one can take me seriously about thinking I'm autistic. Only I know what's going round in my head 24/7, others only see what I portray. 

    I've never really had 'proper' friends, not like others seem to have. I've always felt a bit of a loner really. I don't really know what to say to people most of the time, unless I feel comfortable with them, such as my work mates. I feel I am either very up or very down, and sometimes I feel I can't bring myself to talk to people, if I don't feel like engaging. 

    I used to use alcohol socially to fit in and give myself confidence to socialise. It really did not agree with me and I have had many many awful situations where I've gone off the rails while binge drinking. Now that I am more settled and have my own little family, I no longer go out drinking but have an awful coping mechanism of binge eating :( it's almost an obsession, even though I hate doing it.

    I hope you don't have to wait too long for your assessment :) 

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