Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi!
I need advice on how to stop masking? I never knew it was a real thing, and honestly just thought that everyone made severe changes to them selves based on what their wearing or even by who they are with.
I know who I am, however id like to just be myself. People have been close to me for over five years and im still masking completely with them and its come to my attention that they don't actually know the first thing about me.
I would like to make real friends too, i haven't had anh in a few years and want to learn how to do it. Anyone can help? I havent made a single good friend during five years of my degrees, and I'm awful at just being myself. I also think everyone hates me and i need to work through it.
Advice please
Im trying my hardest to just be myself, but I'm great at masking! Its my best skill i think im a fantastic multitasker too. But i need to focus on making friends and not masking! Any tips?
Anyone who gets to know you and likes you won't care if you're masking or not. The more time they spend with you, the more they'll figure it out.
You will find that your mask only works for simple, predictable situations where you can have a pre-programmed answer. As you get older and life gets more complex, you'll find you can't maintain the mask anyway - it's too physically draining so your true self will pop out.