Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi,
I’m trying to figure out whether or not it’s worth me giving everything my all to try and get the life that I want. My dad says that I can get such a life if I try really hard and overcome the barriers like anxiety and ocd. My mum says it’s not worth the mass amount of pressure it’s going to cause me. I’m confused about it and don’t know what to do.
Currently I’m at home, where I’ve been all my life. I’m 23 and have never had a job yet, I did look a few years back but no one hired me. I’ve never had a girlfriend. I rarely go out and despite driving sometimes with my sister I don’t hold a license.
The life I want is one as a husband and father, someone who works and can drive as well. On the grand scheme of things these aren’t that difficult for most people but for someone with Autism like me and you it’s about the hardest thing I can think of doing. I do want to make these things happen but at the same time I know it’s years of work. I don't cope with stress and I have little problems with the autism which make things extra difficult, ADHD, emetophobia and anxiety disorder. My ocd and anxiety aren’t in a good place and in the past the gp has been less than helpful. I feel like I’m on my own and only I can turn my life around but I have no idea how to do it, or if I can withstand the pressure.
Any help with this would be appreciated. Thanks!
-Goose.
You can do anything you want to - if you have the energy to stick with it. You're very young so there's a good chance that you don't know your own capabilities yet. Do you have anyone external to your family who knows you well and can give you honest feedback?
Have you considered what type of work you could actually do? What wouldn't stress you out? What can you cope with on a regular basis?
Do you think you can learn to drive or is it all too much?
These are things that you are in charge of - you can make or break the successful completion of those tasks.
Relationships are more complicated because it involves a second person and they have their own mind and own desires & plans so finding a match is hard - do you have a social life?.