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New to this forum; diagnosed as autistic in January 2020

NAS67658
over 4 years ago

Hi,

I'm Ess Cee (which as you'll probably guess means my initials are SC). Correct!

I'd be interested in sharing experience with people newly diagnosed as adults. For me, it was no surprise (I've suspected it for a long time) but it was a 'shock'. Maybe I am just very good at pretending to be neurotypical. How exhausting that is! It's really a tremendous relief to start letting some of the autism out . . .

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  • over 4 years ago

    Hi there

    I'm also new to the NAS community and forums  :) I've recently been diagnosed as autistic, at 27 years old. It took 2 years from the point of referral from the GP to get my assessment (i had to beg my GP to refer me because they didnt believe i was autistic). Getting my diagnosis made everything click into place and i finally felt an acceptance in myself that its okay to act, dress and feel differently compared to other people

    Ive always found it difficult to make and maintain friendships with other women because theres this unspoken expectation of how women should act and look, and i just didnt fit into their expectations/clique. Ive found the lockdown particularly difficult because its already hard to try reach out and talk to the few friends that i have anyway

  • over 4 years ago in reply to HBee

    Hi HBee,

    I had similar problems with all the dressing up, wearing make up and going to the hairdresser bit (female  p u r g a t o r y) but have thankfully evolved a system now where I can please myself and be comfortable.

    Friendships I still find difficult and that probably relates back to a lot of childhood stuff.

    During lockdown I have been wearing a face mask and so have an awful lot of other people. So, during food shopping, providing people 'are' wearing a mask, I have shamelessly talked to all of them! I also find that most people are really happy to talk, even if it's just about how tedious all the queuing is. Try it. :-)

    Monday and the opening of non-essential shops is now on the horizon. I'm going to continue to wear a mask (I think they are being given out for free on buses and tubes) and I'm going to continue to talk. We are after all in exactly the same COVID-19 boat.

    Stay safe
    and every good wish
    Ess Cee

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  • over 4 years ago in reply to HBee

    Hi HBee,

    I had similar problems with all the dressing up, wearing make up and going to the hairdresser bit (female  p u r g a t o r y) but have thankfully evolved a system now where I can please myself and be comfortable.

    Friendships I still find difficult and that probably relates back to a lot of childhood stuff.

    During lockdown I have been wearing a face mask and so have an awful lot of other people. So, during food shopping, providing people 'are' wearing a mask, I have shamelessly talked to all of them! I also find that most people are really happy to talk, even if it's just about how tedious all the queuing is. Try it. :-)

    Monday and the opening of non-essential shops is now on the horizon. I'm going to continue to wear a mask (I think they are being given out for free on buses and tubes) and I'm going to continue to talk. We are after all in exactly the same COVID-19 boat.

    Stay safe
    and every good wish
    Ess Cee

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  • over 4 years ago in reply to NAS67658

    I don't like the feel of make up, but wearing sun lotion or heavy moisturiser is the worst!

    I'm glad that you're comfortable with yourself, thats something I'm trying to adapt to now

    I think that coronavirus has made some people more self aware, and kinder to others, and i agree it makes it easier to start conversation or maintain small talk with strangers Slight smile