Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello all
I've been recently diagnosed with autism. It cam as a surprise, but it shouldn't have. I had a miserable educational experience myself, yet I started teaching in my 30s and quickly found myself drawn toward the teaching of autistic young people.
My youngest son was diagnosed with autism a little over a year ago, and watching how he struggles with his school experience is like looking into a mirror onto my own childhood experiences.
It led me to seek a diagnosis for myself. The results aren't surprising really. I'm autistic. It's led me to reassess many of the struggles I've faced in my life, and also the toll that those coping methods have had on my mental health. The methods have been very successful really. I'm very senior in my work, I have money, I have a beautiful partner and wonderful children. However, I know my methods for dealing with it all aren't sustainable, and I'm going to have to change.
Just wanted to say hello, really.
Hi and welcome.
I got diagnosed in my 30's too and work with young adults most of whom are autistic. I am in a senior role too and there are many positives that my autism brings me that makes me good at what I do. Don't get me wrong there are definitely things that are tricky and I have still got a lot of areas in which I can develop!!!
When I received my diagnosis it was initially quite challenging thoughts like 'oh my goodness I am far too autistic to possibly even attempt to go and meet those people/go to the supermarket/go on holiday etc..... Even though these are things that I have done before and really enjoyed (not the supermarket I hate that but I can do it). I also experienced a lot of regret for a childhood and particularly the relationships with family that might have been so different if people had known and I had known.
Getting a diagnosis for me was like I had already Constructed a jigsaw puzzle and worked out the picture of who I was and getting the diagnosis was like taking the pieces apart flipping them over and realising there is a whole other picture on the other side! Exciting and destabilising at the same time.
My only advice is to try and focus equally on the positives that autism brings as well as looking at the tricky stuff
I also agree with taking your time to work things out piece by piece. Something that many of us find so difficult when there is a question or a problem. I want a solution immediately and don't rest until the thing is 'fixed'. (possibly a trait that helps us progress quickly with our careers because many of us tend to be very solution focused and hate chaos and disorder).
I love your jigsaw analogy, Beefree, I'll remember that :)