Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi all
I've just been diagnosed ASD at the age of 55 having really struggled all my life to fit in and many disastrous relationships! I went down the private route for the diagnosis as I just needed to know what was 'wrong' with me. However, I've had the diagnosis now for over two weeks now but still haven't told my family, including my husband. I didn't tell him I was going for an assessment so I just can't seem to find the words to tell him. Has anyone any words of advise to deliver this news without frightening him!!! My family has alway jokingly said to him that he needs a medal for putting up with me. I seem to want to tell. my family but my 'friends' are different. Some think I'm odd / outspoken / funny anyway so maybe it won't come as a shock but how do I start the conversation. I seem to be worried about letting the genie out of the bottle. Thanks for listening as feeling very lost with all this at the moment but at least a lot of my past makes more sense to me know so I'm hoping that the future will be a brighter place for me AND my husband .
I can completely understand your feelings of anxiety about this. I was diagnosed last year at age 45 and it has taken me a while to tell different people. My advice is to take your time and tell people when you are ready. Most of my friends and family have been incredibly supportive - mostly they have not known much about autism (apart from the usual stereotypes) so have just been interested in what it means for me. Also, it is worth stressing that autism is a) just a different way of perceiving the world and b) brings both strengths and weaknesses. It is not all doom and gloom. As you say your future will be much brighter but do give yourself time to adjust. I have had a year now since diagnosis and it is all making much more sense to me.