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Henrietta
over 5 years ago

Hi all

I've just been diagnosed ASD at the age of 55 having really struggled all my life to fit in and many disastrous relationships!  I went down the private route for the diagnosis as I just needed to know what was 'wrong' with me.  However, I've had the diagnosis now for over two weeks now but still haven't told my family, including my husband.  I didn't tell him I was going for an assessment so I just can't seem to find the words to tell him.  Has anyone any words of advise to deliver this news without frightening him!!!  My family has alway jokingly said to him that he needs a medal for putting up with me.  I seem to want to tell. my family but my 'friends' are different.  Some think I'm odd / outspoken / funny anyway so maybe it won't come as a shock but how do I start the conversation.  I seem to be worried about letting the genie out of the bottle.  Thanks for listening as feeling very lost with all this at the moment but at least a lot of my past makes more sense to me know so I'm hoping that the future will be a brighter place for me AND my husband . 

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  • over 5 years ago

    I was diagnosed 8 months ago and still haven't told anyone in my family....

  • over 5 years ago in reply to Bagpuss7

    I'm not formally diagnosed but when I first talked to my partner about it, I showed him the list of behaviours or whatever it is and said, I have every single one of these, and he laughed and said of course you don't. It took a while to sink in I think and for him to realise that yes I did have all those things I just normally hide a lot of it. Then there was a time of adjustment as he said he felt like he didn't know me any more. We are much better now as I explain myself a lot more and he understands I'm not just being difficult. I havent really told anyone else, certainly not family, because I know they won't understand. 

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  • over 5 years ago in reply to Bagpuss7

    I'm not formally diagnosed but when I first talked to my partner about it, I showed him the list of behaviours or whatever it is and said, I have every single one of these, and he laughed and said of course you don't. It took a while to sink in I think and for him to realise that yes I did have all those things I just normally hide a lot of it. Then there was a time of adjustment as he said he felt like he didn't know me any more. We are much better now as I explain myself a lot more and he understands I'm not just being difficult. I havent really told anyone else, certainly not family, because I know they won't understand. 

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