I need advice following a casual comment from my toddler's nursery...

Hi, I'm new. New to this forum and new to thinking about autism beyond what I've seen on tv or heard on the radio.

I have a 2.5yr old son. Talking to his key stage worker (KSW) at his nursery yesterday I asked what they mean when they say "you know what he's like". What is he like? I asked. We only have one child so I have no frame of reference.

His KSW casually said that my son can have emotional reactions to situations which are disproportionate considering his good language/communication skills, and that can be a sign that he is on the autism spectrum.

He said it was 'something to look out for' or 'keep an eye on', I forget which. 

So now I'm trying not to project this throwaway comment onto him and I'm frankly a bit confused about what to look out for and how to look out for it and what to do if I notice it. 

My son is generally a happy, affectionate, articulate little boy. Should I just forget the conversation or will I potentially help him in the long run by assuming he may be on the spectrum?

Any advice greatly appreciated.

Tim.

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  • Unless he flickers his hands in front of his eyes, or just abnormally wave his hands, insist on only the same certain foods, or perhaps screaming or vomiting results, As the father of an autistic son, who had no verbal communication at all at 3.5, and did not relate to other siblings, parents, or others. and you personally realise he was not "normal",and take him to your doctor. Sounds to me he is a normal child, of a parent who has to leave him with others to go to work, He probably feels threatened being in such a physically weak position at 2.5 years old, how else is he going to communicate displeasure. Make a fuss of him is my suggestion.

  • “Not Normal ?”

    I take offence at the use of your word and how you use it.

    ”sounds to me he is a child, (of a parent who has to leave him with others to go to work)”.

    Why on earth would you presume such a thing?

    there is no mention of him being left with others, therefore yet again your expert knowledge of all things to do with all autistic children is wrong. Your son is one individual, he is not at the age of thirty a representation of how a young child would present now.

  • I agree with you completely - it is rather an offensive post all in all, and I simply don’t understand why someone would be so presumptive.

  • As regarding to me coming to the NAS. My Wife has been this Family's Life member for 30+ years, we dont need to have more than one member to sell the NAS Xmas Cards.

    I landed on this website about two weeks ago for obvious reasons. and in Passing unlike your self with your 7000+ points. who has obviously never had to cope with a severely autistic person such as my son, you seem to find my descriptions as to his autistic behavoirs, my reference of autism, threating. 

    A couple of times, I have given my honest unbiased responses to a query whether from male or female in plain english, One I recall being told a child was obsessed with, and was touching other peoples eyes.

    My immediate recall of a happening about 70 years ago, of which I withold details, you either know, or you don't. It was well reported in the Press then and has occasionallly been reported subsequently several times even relatively recently. 

    My my advice was simple and in effect was to not draw attention to the eye problem, by ignoring it, Don't draw atention to it, Protect your eyes, and as a safety precaution, Don't have marbles recalling the well publicised case from 70 years ago, and often referred to in the Press.

    Yes my son refused to suckle at birth, this I later found out indicated something drasitc was wrong. He will even today elect to "No Eat just drinks" generally about once a week. He certainly does not starve, h He will eventually eats and enjoys food prepared for him. 

    Who are you to say that my son's autistic behavoirs with food and vomiting, this comes and goes as a behavoir, that a reason could be found\after 35years . He should not be still doing that. Does his autistic behavoir upset you. This is one of his many autistic behavoirs. What are yours? 

    You can be assured that my son gets all the Care and understanding he requires. 

    Now you have the cheek to require to want to know why Authorities wish to use article 5 of the Human Rights Actto put into State Detention People,  who are in Care, and in My sons Case Whilst he is in the Care of his Family, by the Use of a Deprevation of Liberty Order, when they die in Care the Coroner will Write "Death Whilst in State Detention." These people have done wrong.

    One such Council has tried to do this in bulk One piece of Paper with multiple names on it. I suggest you Google "Re X" .They do this because they can and to protect themselves. It may also be to try and Push the Care Bill from their Budget on to the NHS, or the Home office Budget.

    As regards my son , My Local Authority write That the Care he gets here in his home is faultless.

    However I believe Article 8 of the Human Rights Act is superior to Artlcle 5 and I would like to get help from the NAS for a barrister to establish this in the interest of Justice for the My son and others likewise, being cared for at home.

    I dont thank you for your well wishesas it is a sarcastic comment and relates to the care my son gets at home.

    I have previously already reported your earlier postings as threatening..

    This is not for your benefit , but others reading it.. 

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  • As regarding to me coming to the NAS. My Wife has been this Family's Life member for 30+ years, we dont need to have more than one member to sell the NAS Xmas Cards.

    I landed on this website about two weeks ago for obvious reasons. and in Passing unlike your self with your 7000+ points. who has obviously never had to cope with a severely autistic person such as my son, you seem to find my descriptions as to his autistic behavoirs, my reference of autism, threating. 

    A couple of times, I have given my honest unbiased responses to a query whether from male or female in plain english, One I recall being told a child was obsessed with, and was touching other peoples eyes.

    My immediate recall of a happening about 70 years ago, of which I withold details, you either know, or you don't. It was well reported in the Press then and has occasionallly been reported subsequently several times even relatively recently. 

    My my advice was simple and in effect was to not draw attention to the eye problem, by ignoring it, Don't draw atention to it, Protect your eyes, and as a safety precaution, Don't have marbles recalling the well publicised case from 70 years ago, and often referred to in the Press.

    Yes my son refused to suckle at birth, this I later found out indicated something drasitc was wrong. He will even today elect to "No Eat just drinks" generally about once a week. He certainly does not starve, h He will eventually eats and enjoys food prepared for him. 

    Who are you to say that my son's autistic behavoirs with food and vomiting, this comes and goes as a behavoir, that a reason could be found\after 35years . He should not be still doing that. Does his autistic behavoir upset you. This is one of his many autistic behavoirs. What are yours? 

    You can be assured that my son gets all the Care and understanding he requires. 

    Now you have the cheek to require to want to know why Authorities wish to use article 5 of the Human Rights Actto put into State Detention People,  who are in Care, and in My sons Case Whilst he is in the Care of his Family, by the Use of a Deprevation of Liberty Order, when they die in Care the Coroner will Write "Death Whilst in State Detention." These people have done wrong.

    One such Council has tried to do this in bulk One piece of Paper with multiple names on it. I suggest you Google "Re X" .They do this because they can and to protect themselves. It may also be to try and Push the Care Bill from their Budget on to the NHS, or the Home office Budget.

    As regards my son , My Local Authority write That the Care he gets here in his home is faultless.

    However I believe Article 8 of the Human Rights Act is superior to Artlcle 5 and I would like to get help from the NAS for a barrister to establish this in the interest of Justice for the My son and others likewise, being cared for at home.

    I dont thank you for your well wishesas it is a sarcastic comment and relates to the care my son gets at home.

    I have previously already reported your earlier postings as threatening..

    This is not for your benefit , but others reading it.. 

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