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HELP ME PLEASE!!! Surely I can't be the only one???

Hendrow
over 6 years ago

I am so unhappy at the moment. The reason is money, to be specific budgeting!! I am so rubbish at it, (I am on the benefits system AGAIN!) I make the same mistakes over and over again. (Decade after bloody decade!! Fortnight after Fortnight!!) End up running out of money, and having to either borrow some money or sell something (like a junkie.)  Its like a OCD thing, a compulsion to wreck things financially whenever I can.

The problem is I am now feeling so low, negative and wishing I was dead. Is this common with people who have Aspergers syndrome? I want to cry, I want to die, I want to poke myself in the eye. I don't self harm other than over-eating, or eating food that upsets my bowels and stomach. 

Do you know is this is something I can be cured of? It does not bode well for a good future for me, yet I am positive it is a brain malfunction thing. I so want to do better, I just can't I don't know how. It is so damn frustrating, it is driving me to tears literally!!!

Am I the only one who suffers like this? Where should I turn to for help with this? Can anyone really help me??

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  • over 5 years ago

    Is it because you spend too much on things you don't need, or do you spend too much on things you need?

    If the former, don't give yourself the opportunity to spend. Leave your bank card at home and only take the cash you specifically need. Don't go shopping when you're hungry, because that makes you buy stuff you don't need. If you eat out a lot, try to cut back on that. If you smoke, stop, because that's just throwing money away on something that will destroy your health anyway. Same with excessive drinking. Also, it sounds as though you buy food that you don't need or that is bad for you. Try to cut back on that. Make a grocery list beforehand and stick to it.

    Spending money can be an addiction, so think about whether that applies to you, and do what you need to do to stop yourself from buying things you don't need (by making lists, leaving the card at home, etc.).

    If you don't have enough for things you need, then I'm not sure what to tell you. That's not really a budgeting issue and it's definitely not your fault.

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  • over 5 years ago

    Is it because you spend too much on things you don't need, or do you spend too much on things you need?

    If the former, don't give yourself the opportunity to spend. Leave your bank card at home and only take the cash you specifically need. Don't go shopping when you're hungry, because that makes you buy stuff you don't need. If you eat out a lot, try to cut back on that. If you smoke, stop, because that's just throwing money away on something that will destroy your health anyway. Same with excessive drinking. Also, it sounds as though you buy food that you don't need or that is bad for you. Try to cut back on that. Make a grocery list beforehand and stick to it.

    Spending money can be an addiction, so think about whether that applies to you, and do what you need to do to stop yourself from buying things you don't need (by making lists, leaving the card at home, etc.).

    If you don't have enough for things you need, then I'm not sure what to tell you. That's not really a budgeting issue and it's definitely not your fault.

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