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3Di

Boney

Hi,

I have a 3Di assessment next week, which I know is a computer based developmental, dimensional & diagnostic interview. I am feeling quite apprehensive about it & would appreciate some information on what to expect. Any input would be greatly appreciated.

My son is 6 yrs old now but I 'knew' from just a few months old that he was 'different'. I expressed my concerns to the medical professions for 5 years...but was only when he started school that those concerns were recognised. So, at this stage I feel a real mixture of emotions-I am relieved that he may finally get the support he needs, I AM actually being listened to, but am also in the 'it's just hit me & become real' kinda mode.

  • Hi, Thats great it went well, same old questions they just like to call it different things to get us worried! lol

    Im still going through emotions and like you I thought I was a strong person I have now after a few months decided I am still a strong person but need some suport with some things, thats how i hope you will look at things. It actualy takes strength to say I need help.

    Im sure your daughter doesnt think you are offloading on her and wants to help both you and your son.

    There is a local branch of the NAS near me but (I dont want to moan about them on there own site but) the woman who runs it has been a nightmare, I joined the NAS the day after diagnoses, I had loads of leaflets from my sons psych to get help and support and was ready to get some help after 16years!! The NAS in generaly was highly recomended, but other than this forum I feel a bit let down.

    There hasnt been a local branch meeting since July when I first emailed the lady that runs it, Ive tried a few times and she just answers with I will contact you with dates of the next meeting when they are available. The Help! courses look fantastic and ive heard wonderfull reports about them, if you can go to them then I would. But they dont run in scotland anymore. Ive tried other avenues with no luck so unfortunatly I havnt had any guidence or support that I thought I would be able to get. But realisticaly I know thats an area issue, if I lived somewhere else I would get more help.

    So best of luck to you, let me know how your study groups go and I can learn from you!

    Sam

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  • Hiya, 3Di went well....was nowhere near as daunting as i'd expected!! lol

    The outcome...my son was diagnosed with mild-moderate Autism. I'm happy with that, he can now get the support he needs & I can join study groups to help me understand him better to make the right decisions.

    Blimey....no'one warns you of the emotions!! I always thought I was a strong person, but this all has taken a good chunk out of me!

    You're right tho, this site is probably the only support for alot of people. I have family I can talk to but they don't live nearby, so cannot really offer any support . My 20yr old daughter (lives at home) came with me today, she is so patient & understanding with her brother-but I don't think it's fair to 'offload' on her. 

    Anyway, apparently I will be invited to a string of study groups which will help me to deal with issues and I have a local NAS to look up. I don't know if you have one nearby, but they hold regular meetings.

  • Hi,

    good luck for tomoro, let us know how it goes.

    Sam

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  • Thank you Sam. I do agre that there ia a lack of support for parents. I struggle with the fact that I don't understand my son's behaviour, why he does the things he does. He only has one parent so I don't have anyone to offload on or share support. But in a way I am grateful as I know his homelife is consistant.

    Well, 3Di  tomorrow....I can answer the same questions with my eyes closed ;=)

  • Hi,

    The 3Di is actualy not that bad (if its what I think it is, Im useless with names of things). Its just the same old questions that you are used too, asked in a different order! lol! Its a tool to help the doctors.

    In my sons case the doc had already decided which areas needed covered, they ask the first question and the computer prompts the next question. It does take a while and might not be completed in one appointment.

    I do think the emotions you go through are probably the hardest part of assesments for parents and I think we should get some seperate counciling to help us cope, we do what we can to help our children but there is no one for us. Thats why i joined this forum, its the only support I have.

    Good luck with everything

    Sam

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