lonely

hello,

I'm feeling really lost and out of answers, I dont know where to turn. I have been married to my husband for a year and a half, we have been together for 12 years and have lived together most of that. i'm feeling really isolated and lonely and we've discussed it but I feel like I cant find the right way to communicate. it tends to be a lot of me talking and not a lot of response. I try to use more literal than emotive language and I try to give him the time to respond. sometimes i'll suggest we pick up things the next day but no matter what technique I use we never seem to come to any constructive outcome, I usually just drop it and try to squash my feelings down. I'm starting to feel more like a carer than a wife. 

I've had a slow burning of something not been right for me for a while, probably before we got married if i'm being really honest with myself. I feel so lonely, he is so happy in his own company, he doesnt really have any friends. I've pushed this and kind of laid it down as a deal breaker that he needs to have his own full life, I know that sounds like me pushing my needs onto him but I know he always finds socialising rewarding when he does it and he has been making more of an effort with it with people at work (easier given its just been christmas) I am a very social person and I am starting to find it difficult to speak to him, he is very into computers and youtube and i've never minded (not for me, bit annoying but i'm sure he finds my love island obsession annoying, different strokes for different folks!) him not having friends puts a lot of pressure on me and again makes me feel more like a carer, I dont want to be the only fulfilling relationship in his life.

i'm 32 and I want children (and i've become very aware of my biological clock) and i'm starting to panic that i've made the wrong decision, I still love my husband but I dont know if i'm in love with him anymore, I really want this to work but I dont know what approach I can take to be happy in this marriage.