Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi, I need some help. I start sixth form on Friday and I am really worried about the social side of it. my best mate has decided that we need to spend practically every second together and honestly I would rather just hide in a classroom at break and lunch and not talk to anyone. I really don't understand how people do conversations and it doesn't matter how many things I read, I still don't understand. how am I supposed to spend 3/4 hours with her and talk? what the hell do I talk about? and I know that I could just tell her that but I am not sure how and I don't want to upset her, i like spending time with her, it's just exhausting.
Hi,
Thanks for the update and quick reply. I'll be sure to keep an eye on this thread. Looking for the same issue.walgreenslistens
Thanks. I wasn't diagnosed whilst in 6th form so I didn't get support. I didn't even know I had ASC. You could just see how it goes and adjust what you do on breaks depending on how you feel? I get your worry but there's no point planning so far ahead in my opinion. It's hard but it might not be as bad as you think.
Hi, thanks for your reply, it is very helpful. I think I can manage to talk about lessons and stuff
Hi, thanks for your reply. a quiet place sounds like a good idea, i am definitely going to ask them for that. any more suggestions?
Hi, thanks for your reply. I hope your course goes well. my school has been very supportive over the last 5 years so I think that the sixth form will do whatever they can to support me. they have said that if I think of anything that I need then I should just let them know which is great but I can't think of anything.
I am worrying about it way too much.
I would like to say from my experience that a lot of what's talked about is what's going on ,ie the next lesson or what you just learned. Subjects move on a lot but focusing on that is always helpful if you can't think of something to talk about . I understand the length constraints so you should probably just be honest about not being able to talk for that long
If you have had an ASC diagnosis the 6th form college should make accommodations for you. This should include a quiet place you can go to if you become overstimulated. This should give you an opt out from your friend if you need one.
Hi, no advice is perfect but in my opinion it'd be best to tell her and just explain how you feel. I start an access course soon and I'll be getting some support. Have you considered mentioning your problems to the sixth form and if there are ways they can take some of the pressure off somehow? When I go to my college having less pressure will allow me to socialise a bit better I think. I think it's important you don't try and fit into what everyone else's idea of what a good conversation is too. It seems to me you've got valid worries but you might be worrying about it a bit too much? It's fine to be not good in conversations, especially if they make you anxious and they change rapidly.