Published on 12, July, 2020
My son is 14 mild autism mild adhd and mild learning difficulties!
For quite a few years now hes been sex mad, cant wait to have sex always asking questions. he came out the other day and told me he is pan sexual!
now i am pretty open minded but he really caught me off guard has he is known to be a bit of a joker? and i laughed and said oh right son? then he got angry with
me and i soon realised hes serious....what do i do how do i handle this? he wants to tell the world, now im not ashamed in anyway shape of form but how do i prepare him for what
people are going to say and react to him?
im thinkomg i not sure if he quite understands what pan sexual is? is there any groups i can attend or anywhere i can take him to talk abiut him.
thank you
Could you try playing a little dumb and pretending it's a new term for you and you're not entirely sure what it means? Then you can find out whether he does know/understand what it means whilst showing that you are open and interested in what he has to say. If he doesn't understand it could be an opportunity for you both to look it up together. If he does then that's the first problem out the way. Just an idea.
For people's reactions I think you could only be honest with him. Reassure him that whoever he is and whatever his sexuality is perfect but that it's still a new term for a lot of people and when people don't understand something they can be quite negative about it.
A group is also a great idea but I have no idea where you would find one. Possibly through social media?