Published on 12, July, 2020
I have just had a diagnosis of apsergers (with a fair amount of adhd traits too) at 38. I have a long history of depression and anxety. I am struggling most with executive functioning and it is the adhd traits that seem to be causing my the most problems at the moment. I have struggled for so long with keeping my house clean and uncluttered. My house is full of clutter and I am a huge procrastinator, have very low motivation and even if I do actually manage to do some housework I get distracted or can't seem to do it for long. I get over whelmed by everything that needs to be done but also seem to have an issue with just doing a little bit at a time.
I have been criticised by my husband and my parents for so long as they just couldn't understand why I found it all so difficult. I wish I could employ a cleaner and someone to help me organise things but I don't have the money.
Any adivce woulde be much appreciated. I was only diagnosed last week and am still getting my head around it all.
I don't really have any advice but I can offer solidarity. I also struggle with stuff like that: procrastination, and it makes my head hurt as certain activities seem to encourage thoughts to just go round and round and round until it drives me nuts.
For me, the partial (and only very partial) solution is to do stuff that I'm reasonably okay with. I feel like I'm pulling my weight, which regardless of any considerations of my ability just makes me feel better about myself, and... er, in the time it took me to write that I've forgotten my second point. But at least I managed one of them!
So I do the cooking and washing up. Yeah, sometimes I get frustrated and occasionally I leave the rings on and I nearly set fire to a wooden spoon last week but I actually like cooking and I'm reasonably good at it. So do stuff that you're cool with and try not to set fire to anything because that would suck.
I actually bought a fire extinguisher recently in case of any more oopsies.