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Aspergers Syndrome- Dating and establishing a relationship

wash620
over 12 years ago
Hello,

I was wondering whether the autistics among us have ever experienced any issues with liking someone romantically, and trying to get to know them, dating them, and becoming closer etc. I've recently started to develop in this area and so far it has been a pretty miserable experience. I had a 10-month crush on a girl at my uni which sadly came to nothing because she entered into a relationship of her own just recently. Throughout this time I found it very difficult not to get preoccupied with this and there was constant confusion about what the other person felt. I think this relates a great deal to how people with Aspergers have trouble reading body language and knowing how to talk to others. There were mixed signals, although not intentional I don't think, and it was both thrilling to like someone but a bit of a hell with all this confusion. Despite the fact that I should be getting over her, it is proving difficult and she still invades my thoughts regularly. This makes me feel ashamed and wonder whether I am a selfish, pathetic individual. Does anyone here with Aspergers have any similar experiences?
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  • over 12 years ago

    SO comforting to read about people who go through the same issues... feeling particularly relieved now. I've had one relationship, but other than that, very little contact with the opposite sex and the relationship itself was unpleasant for me. I too avoid make up and dressing up.

    I think the hardest part is keeping up hope that it's going to be ok in the end - I mean I've read a lot about other Aspies and how they eventually end up in relationships. Sheesh I was really bummed out before I started reading this thread but now I feel good again. 

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  • over 12 years ago

    SO comforting to read about people who go through the same issues... feeling particularly relieved now. I've had one relationship, but other than that, very little contact with the opposite sex and the relationship itself was unpleasant for me. I too avoid make up and dressing up.

    I think the hardest part is keeping up hope that it's going to be ok in the end - I mean I've read a lot about other Aspies and how they eventually end up in relationships. Sheesh I was really bummed out before I started reading this thread but now I feel good again. 

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