Going to bed

Yes - I’m sure you’re right that we need to create some kind of schedule or routine. We really do struggle with doing that - we just get so tired and unmotivated at night (probably due to not going to bed early enough - it’s a vicious circle!). Like you I think we like the evening as it’s ’our time’ and we don’t want it to end. Also we hate cleaning our teeth (I know this sounds childish but it’s just a fact!) and I thing we keep putting that off too - so that delays us. Plus if we start watching a film we always want to watch it to the end to find out what happens. We just have poor discipline too essentially! I’m not proud of it but it’s just the way we are. Sometimes we feel so useless to not do better with this! You’re right - it does feel good to know we’re not alone in this respect! 

Please don’t think you’re not worth taking care of yourself - I’m sure that you are. I understand that feeling though - and I’m sorry you sometimes feel that way. 

Yes I have this problem too. I don’t even work but my mind races so fast and I get triggered so easily that I just think what’s the point in sleeping yet. Also I personally feel what’s the point because of the amount of people who have told me hurtful things that I think why should I bother sleeping and caring for myself, I’m not worth it

I have to agree with your 'not rational logic', I too hate to go to bed for 2 reasons:

1. It makes getting up and facing the new day seem so close.

2. For some reasons I have in my head the notion that you should not go to bed the same day as you get up. 

weird or what?

Yes this is a problem for me too. I always intend to go to bed at 11 but where the night is so peaceful and people free I think I like it so much my body refuses to shut down and sleep. 

At night I can be myself, I don't have to hide away and it feels good because it's like a time I can really breathe and relax.

I've always struggled with sleeping though. When I was younger my mum would put me to bed for school and then I'd be awake and out of bed again lol. She found it extremely frustrating apparently  

Have you tried creating a sleep schedule? I've read that this can help you create a routine and improve your sleep. I'm currently trying one but not had a lot of success yet. 

I hope you can find something that works for you and can at least have a little comfort knowing that a lot of us have the same issue

Yes.

I like the night as it is quiet, peaceful and lower stimulation, no light, sound, wind, cars, planes, wood pigeons. I feel calm at night.

I need to sleep and go to bed but find it hard to move and do it. I suppose it is inertia. So I put it off. I try not to.

I often fall asleep in my chair rather than go upstairs if I have been stressed in the day.

Hi Kate Kestrel  Good to see you. Not seen you about for ages.

It is a hard habit to break: sleep times. I am at the other end of the problem: I'm soundo at 9pm and up at 5. It is annoying. Especially for my night owl husband. 

Hope you find the answer. xx

Yes, I'm terrible at going to bed, especially on a week night, I hate my job and going to bed means I have to get up in the morning and go to work (not rational logic, I know). 

I also think summer months are a struggle as it's so light.

I have been trying to get a routine going and I've been listening to podcasts to try and help me sleep. 

Kate Kestrel said:

It’s a habit we seem to find so hard to break

having a routine and being resistant to changing it are very autistic traits, so now you know this applies you can do something about it.

I would suggest agreeing with everyone to set a new routine where you don't drink after say 9pm, have a bedtime routine that starts at -say- 11pm and it is lights out by mindnight at the latest.

Set alarms for the 9pm and 11pm slots to remind yourselves until it becomes automatic.

Once you have done this for a week it becomes much easier to follow and after the 2nd week it becomes more difficult to consider changing - you are re-writing your neural pathways around this event and adjusting your body clock to the new routine.

That first week is the hard one but getting everyone on board with it will make it much easier to follow.

Pretty simple to do once you can build the concensus and use a small amount of discipline.