Anyone finds themselves incredibly naive?

Definitely,I remember the kind of rage that I felt was enough to burn a building cos I was so wronged and so confused about it all,the worst of them is that in your mind,you're just tryna be kind with these people and they are being shady and strategic with you like upon the realisation,you just take the biggest step back, people are weird as hell.

Thank you. I am going through the diagnosis now and feel completely in over my head already. That's sad you felt that way. I think many of us feel like outcasts. I certainly do. 

It's a relief to know that others are too. I was diagnosed very young, but I've lived for the longest time seeing it as a blemish that needs to be covered up.

I do find I am niave and so have many times been led astray so to speak by another. Just recently I was caught by a scammer and though I know this happens to others as well, but I believed some pretty stupid things. But I did call my dad before deciding to do something about it. He advised claling my bank and I was quick enough to stop any transactions. I'm much older than you. What helps me is just knowing that I need to ask for help from those I trust as you say. 

I find it very difficult to believe someone has lied or decieved. When faced with a the fact somone lied about something I am shocked even though I know people lie all the time. It's a weird contrast. 

I'm sorry to hear that for you. I've managed to get through a fair bit with my masking, and so I feel my understanding of the world around me is quite restricting. I was picked on during school, but it made me go deeper into myself rather than fight for myself.

Yes,I realised I kept getting involved with toxic people, narcissists and mean girls overall,all I wanted to was fit it in,my sisters were my first major bullies,I realised I wasn't masking and people saw my differences and they picked me apart till I started questioning everything.

Is that something that snapped in place for you, to be more aware, or something you learnt over time>?

Yeah, it's only recently I got my diagnosis and I have just learned to accept myself. But everyone's different. I still have trouble accepting the world too. I'm 35 and I got diagnosed 1 month ago, I go by the newbie cause I'm here to figure myself out too like you.

I'm certainly not naive anymore,ever since I woke up to the evils of the real world,not the ideal one I had in mind being unaware of how the systems worked, politics, propaganda,human nature,envy and jealousy,my God,I'm much wiser and calmer now and I refuse to be naive anymore,we have to keep our eyes open society isn't friendly to us neurodiverse people, it's even worse when you're conventionally attractive 

I have been fooled by people in public asking for money a  few times.  Now I just view them all as lying and almost always ignore people.

Make notes. If someone tells you something put it in a notebook. If necessary also ask if they can show you if you think you may struggle. Visual processing is easier.

You can even video things on your phone so you can watch it later.

Onl computers you can take screen shots of key bits too.

None of this is being weird, so as long as you have the confidence to try them it will be fine.

I feel that too. I've given money away to people on the street and online because they ask for help and I end up feeling a lot of sympathy for them. I also feel as if everything people tell me I have to take it to heart and consider it seriously.

I tend to ask similar questions as I leave the situation and then end up not understanding fully what I was meant to do. I've realised I need to allow my time to process and reflect, something I do very little of.

It's true though, I'm not the only one. I think it's the fact that it feels as if people can mask their weirdness and keep a level of balance with everyday things. Also, I do know that people have a sense of the world around them to an extent, where as it feels like I am stuck in my own world. I've masked well to a point that very little people can tell I have autism. If I let go of the mask more, I feel it will become more obvious

This may seem a strange question, but did you reach a point where you accepted the fact that you were wired differently? I've found it something I struggle to accept because I feel as if I am not able to embrace the world in its full like others around me.

I'm still naive, I'm 37. I do take everything straight forward. If someone tells me a story, I take it as it is. I can't judge from their voice and facial expressions if they are telling truth or lying. I remember long time ago, I was coming back home from some courses, together with one colleague and we had some chat. Mostly she spoke and I listened. Someone approached us, while speaking, looked mostly at her. That other lady wanted to offer us something. The outcome was that my colleague had a nice chat with the other one with a smile, being very polite etc. And when she left, Mt colleague said, that she is not buying these lies. I was shocked, I couldn't understand,  how she knew, these were lies, and why she was so nice to that lady, if she had a negative opinion about her or whatever she was talking about. And I'm still pretty gullible. 

Managing life also took me more time, than my peers. I still feel kind of not fully grown up. Because of being lost in social situations,  because of problems with emotional regulation and being do naive.

Don't assume everyone else is so great at this either. Plenty of people struggle with debt and running their lives. You just don't see it.

People look ok from the outside. You may look ok to a stranger looking at you.

Don't be scared to ask questions. As long as you note the answers and don't keep asking the same questions then people are normally happy to help.

Your not alone, I'm 35 and I still do this. It's not naive we just struggle with things others find easy. We are wired up differently.