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Anyone finds themselves incredibly naive?

aurelis

I am 26 and I feel very naive to the things around me. I feel as if now I am slowly realising properly that a world exists outside of my own head. It feels embarassing to realise this, and scary to admit that I don't understand basic things that people around me do. Budgeting and financing, managing expectations, understanding myself in a balanced way, managing responsibilities well. I'm now slowly trying to catch up, but it's difficult because I really feel as if I am really behind my peers. 

Something that is helping and it is hard, but to trust that some of those around me that I am well with won't judge me if I ask simple questions, and try to take my time to process these, instead of trying to force myself to grow up quickly on my own, something that I have been used to doing for years.

Does anyone else feel this sense of naivety?

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  • I'm still naive, I'm 37. I do take everything straight forward. If someone tells me a story, I take it as it is. I can't judge from their voice and facial expressions if they are telling truth or lying. I remember long time ago, I was coming back home from some courses, together with one colleague and we had some chat. Mostly she spoke and I listened. Someone approached us, while speaking, looked mostly at her. That other lady wanted to offer us something. The outcome was that my colleague had a nice chat with the other one with a smile, being very polite etc. And when she left, Mt colleague said, that she is not buying these lies. I was shocked, I couldn't understand,  how she knew, these were lies, and why she was so nice to that lady, if she had a negative opinion about her or whatever she was talking about. And I'm still pretty gullible. 

    Managing life also took me more time, than my peers. I still feel kind of not fully grown up. Because of being lost in social situations,  because of problems with emotional regulation and being do naive.

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  • I'm still naive, I'm 37. I do take everything straight forward. If someone tells me a story, I take it as it is. I can't judge from their voice and facial expressions if they are telling truth or lying. I remember long time ago, I was coming back home from some courses, together with one colleague and we had some chat. Mostly she spoke and I listened. Someone approached us, while speaking, looked mostly at her. That other lady wanted to offer us something. The outcome was that my colleague had a nice chat with the other one with a smile, being very polite etc. And when she left, Mt colleague said, that she is not buying these lies. I was shocked, I couldn't understand,  how she knew, these were lies, and why she was so nice to that lady, if she had a negative opinion about her or whatever she was talking about. And I'm still pretty gullible. 

    Managing life also took me more time, than my peers. I still feel kind of not fully grown up. Because of being lost in social situations,  because of problems with emotional regulation and being do naive.

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