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Anyone finds themselves incredibly naive?

aurelis

I am 26 and I feel very naive to the things around me. I feel as if now I am slowly realising properly that a world exists outside of my own head. It feels embarassing to realise this, and scary to admit that I don't understand basic things that people around me do. Budgeting and financing, managing expectations, understanding myself in a balanced way, managing responsibilities well. I'm now slowly trying to catch up, but it's difficult because I really feel as if I am really behind my peers. 

Something that is helping and it is hard, but to trust that some of those around me that I am well with won't judge me if I ask simple questions, and try to take my time to process these, instead of trying to force myself to grow up quickly on my own, something that I have been used to doing for years.

Does anyone else feel this sense of naivety?

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  • in reply to aurelis

    Yes,I realised I kept getting involved with toxic people, narcissists and mean girls overall,all I wanted to was fit it in,my sisters were my first major bullies,I realised I wasn't masking and people saw my differences and they picked me apart till I started questioning everything.

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  • in reply to aurelis

    Definitely,I remember the kind of rage that I felt was enough to burn a building cos I was so wronged and so confused about it all,the worst of them is that in your mind,you're just tryna be kind with these people and they are being shady and strategic with you like upon the realisation,you just take the biggest step back, people are weird as hell.

  • in reply to Joana

    I'm sorry to hear that for you. I've managed to get through a fair bit with my masking, and so I feel my understanding of the world around me is quite restricting. I was picked on during school, but it made me go deeper into myself rather than fight for myself.