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Anyone finds themselves incredibly naive?

aurelis

I am 26 and I feel very naive to the things around me. I feel as if now I am slowly realising properly that a world exists outside of my own head. It feels embarassing to realise this, and scary to admit that I don't understand basic things that people around me do. Budgeting and financing, managing expectations, understanding myself in a balanced way, managing responsibilities well. I'm now slowly trying to catch up, but it's difficult because I really feel as if I am really behind my peers. 

Something that is helping and it is hard, but to trust that some of those around me that I am well with won't judge me if I ask simple questions, and try to take my time to process these, instead of trying to force myself to grow up quickly on my own, something that I have been used to doing for years.

Does anyone else feel this sense of naivety?

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  • Don't assume everyone else is so great at this either. Plenty of people struggle with debt and running their lives. You just don't see it.

    People look ok from the outside. You may look ok to a stranger looking at you.

    Don't be scared to ask questions. As long as you note the answers and don't keep asking the same questions then people are normally happy to help.

  • in reply to Stuart333

    I tend to ask similar questions as I leave the situation and then end up not understanding fully what I was meant to do. I've realised I need to allow my time to process and reflect, something I do very little of.

    It's true though, I'm not the only one. I think it's the fact that it feels as if people can mask their weirdness and keep a level of balance with everyday things. Also, I do know that people have a sense of the world around them to an extent, where as it feels like I am stuck in my own world. I've masked well to a point that very little people can tell I have autism. If I let go of the mask more, I feel it will become more obvious

  • in reply to aurelis

    Make notes. If someone tells you something put it in a notebook. If necessary also ask if they can show you if you think you may struggle. Visual processing is easier.

    You can even video things on your phone so you can watch it later.

    Onl computers you can take screen shots of key bits too.

    None of this is being weird, so as long as you have the confidence to try them it will be fine.

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  • in reply to aurelis

    Make notes. If someone tells you something put it in a notebook. If necessary also ask if they can show you if you think you may struggle. Visual processing is easier.

    You can even video things on your phone so you can watch it later.

    Onl computers you can take screen shots of key bits too.

    None of this is being weird, so as long as you have the confidence to try them it will be fine.

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