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‘Let it go’ how????

Ems

I have a really strong sense of justice and often struggle to see things in other ways. If I think I’m right about something there’s not much that can change my mind, but I am able to admit when I am wrong (reluctantly). 

I get told to ‘let it go’ a lot, especially on political and controversial topics. Something I’m really passionate about is animal rights and cruelty. I really struggle to let things go in a conversation when not only do I know I’m right, there’s actual evidence and facts to support that it is true. This keeps happening when I’m talking to my family. As it’s something I’m passionate about when it comes up in a conversation I try to educate them and it turns into an argument because I can’t let it go and can’t understand how they can’t see these facts and evidence as true and real? 

I then constantly think about it and get frustrated all over again. I hate it. Once someone has done or said something I don’t agree with it’s all I see in them. I really hate it. 

I feel like I’ve rambled a lot but I was just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to ‘let things go’ if that’s even possible for autistics 

Parents

  • Some are advising you to compromise on your principles- or at least your tone - because others don't like them. 

    To me that's like agreeing just to eat meat twice a week rather than not at all to save a family row. 

    Most people aren't political or radical. Once they've gone past the news headlines, they've had enough. They don't want detail.  If you start to bombard them with facts, their brains get overheated. This 'let it go' to me is code for them saying the subject is too heavy. 

    The world needs people with a social conscience. It shouldn't shame people who have ethics and morals into dampening them down to appease the masses.  It should celebrate these individuals as forward-thinking and revolutionary. 

    I realise people are offering ways that 'could' make life easier and less confrontational, but if you've got that fire of injustice in your soul, then I see it as something to be celebrated. 

  • in reply to overwhelmed & underwhelmed ( O & U )

    Thank you for this. I know that it’s wrong of me to hold things against people but I find it so hard to let go when Things go against my morals or beliefs that I believe to be rational, especially in this instance when it involes animals. 

  • in reply to Ems
    Ems said:
    I know that it’s wrong of me to hold things against people

    I think it is the fact you are a principled person that makes you say this.  There's a loyalty toward family, regardless of what they say, yet it makes you angry if they aren't willing to debate. 

    In a way you should congratulate yourself.  It is hard managing your world view and your family - and giving thought to both - many can see only one or the other.   It doesn't mean you should abandon one to favour the other though. 

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  • in reply to Ems
    Ems said:
    I know that it’s wrong of me to hold things against people

    I think it is the fact you are a principled person that makes you say this.  There's a loyalty toward family, regardless of what they say, yet it makes you angry if they aren't willing to debate. 

    In a way you should congratulate yourself.  It is hard managing your world view and your family - and giving thought to both - many can see only one or the other.   It doesn't mean you should abandon one to favour the other though. 

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